Help with this sex issue..

[djinhell]

For those of you that dont know, Im a 23 year old virgin (NOT GOOD). Anyways, I was thinking, when Im about to sleep with a girl I have two choices

1, Tell her im a virgin and probably scare her away

2, Just try to "wing it" and hopefully do a half decent job

It seems there is risks in both choices but which do you think is the best option?

I know on this forum, we say 'fake it til you make it' in terms of attitude, but in terms of virginity and sexual confidence, can it be faked?

Cheers Guys

 

[Metaphysical]

It's up to you. If you think you can do a decent job, just wing it.

But most girls kinda get turned on if you tell them you're a virgin. I experimented that one once. They like being your first because it feeds their ego. I used to pretend I'm a virgin even though I had been with 30 women before and I was all innocent and stuff.

Then when I would start pounding them they would be like, no way you are a virgin. And I'd laugh my ass off and say "oops i lied".

They will also try to bed you faster. Seriously. Unless they're a virgin themselves. In which case you're screwed.

 

[Clarky]

i did it mate.

Although i know theres going to be people on here who say 16 year olds arn't expected to be good sex.

Age really isnt an issue its about creativity, djs have creativity which is what spearates them from average joes, its the same in the bedroom, last night i gave my gf the best sex of my life, i'm not a brag but i can tell that she extremely enjoyed it. You have to explore her body, seriously get to know what turns her on and what makes her toes curl, tounge and mouth are always winners in my book. Her breasts, neck, lower stomach inner thighs and obvioulsy **** are very sensitive i seriously had no idea how much pleasure women can get from their nipples. The key is to take it slow, and not rush things like its some sort of military operation, and to find out from her reactions what she enjoys.

I would say wing it, there is a sterotype around virigns and sex for obvious reasons and no your not going to be a stud first time, but theres no reason why you cant still stand out from other guys who only look after their own pleasure.

Have you ever fingered a girl before? Because if you have and your pretty good at it i would reccomend winding sexual tension up to the brink of orgasm (you can easily tell from when she starts breathing heavier or displays similar actions) then whack on a condom climb ontop and enjoy the ride If you havnt theres plenty of websites around to teach you.

I was nervous the first time i had sex and to a certain degree no, it cannot be faked but i think that if you get yourself in the state of mind that 'what ever happens this is still the furthest ive been with a girl' you can still see the night as a success. The quickest way to ger her mind off thinking if your a virgin is simply to keep her preoccupied with her own pleasure, hell if your pleasing her well then HOW could you possibly be a virgin?

hope this helps.

 

[djinhell]

Thanks for advice guys. Clarky, yes I have fingered a girl before, im quite confident in that aspect of sex. So yeah, I guess if I take it slow, focus on pleasuring her and get more and more comfortable with her whilst doing that, it should be ok to wing it.

I just hope its not one of those things where if the girl finds out I lied, then she will be majorly pissed about it (which I could see happening, but hopefully she wouldn't find out lol)

Thanks

 

[Metaphysical]

Age really isnt an issue its about creativity, djs have creativity which is what spearates them from average joes, its the same in the bedroom, last night i gave my gf the best sex of my life, i'm not a brag but i can tell that she extremely enjoyed it.

Hahha. Made me laugh out loud.

You are aware that most folks on this website are major internet nerds right?

If you know anything about nerds they are stuck in their ways, rigid and lacking creativity, not to mention nerds are a horrible lay. Both male and female.

 

[Clarky]

Haha i know what you mean! But on the plus side if she finds out your a virgin and you still showed her an amazing time that might make you look even better in her eyes?

I'd recommend you build it up with the fingering pretty easy to get her going if your confident.

It's in your interests to make her orgasm this time even if you yourself dont, once she sees what your capable of she'll be back for more = more sex = more experience and more pleasure for you

When do you think you might get her in bed?

 

[Clarky]

Hahha. Made me laugh out loud.

You are aware that most folks on this website are major internet nerds right?

If you know anything about nerds they are stuck in their ways, rigid and lacking creativity, not to mention nerds are a horrible lay. Both male and female.

Haha more than aware. Which is why it's important that people who actually have the mentality to change get good advice. I'm sure some people on this site must think i'm a KJ then you've got the other half who probably don't want to accept the fact a 'kid' knows his sh!t.

But oh well, i'll give advice when its needed

 

[Scars]

I would just go into it letting her know you're a virgin. This could most likely work in your favor, plus you shouldn't lie, because she is going to know either way.