Help with this problem please.

[Canadian Catnip]

Hi all.

I have gone out with this girl once and we went for coffee. It was a short date 40 minutes or so, I cut it short because I had to go to work. Of course she did most of the talking and I barely got a word in. I tried to listen mostly and ask the occasional question.

The problem is I really was bored when I was listing to her prattle on about just about everything she talked about. Cookie dough, how her friend drives, snow etc.

I saw her yesterday and she said she wanted to get together again for coffee because she had such a good time last time. No Sh!T Sherlock.

There was a little kino last time. She touched me a few times and our legs were touching and we did the old pretend we did not notice routine. I liked her at first but I don't think I can stand to listen to her again.

Am I just being selfish? How do you guys handle the long boring conversations about nothing that girls like to have?

All things considered am I right or wrong to decide that I don't want to hang out with this girl because she bores me? Even thought I like her other qualities. Should I change my mind and learn how to like it? Or should I just drop her?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

That's not as bad as chicks who are boring because they don't say anything. With both types of boring chicks you need to take control of the conversation, at least of the topics and threads you are interested in entertaining. This chick sounds like she'd be perfect to bust balls and tease and have a good time with. Be a philantropist and give her a second chance, but on your terms, which you will dictate throughout most of the date.

Kino must start much earlier this second time around. I mean as in holding her hand, massaging her forearms, rubbing her shoulders and back of neck, all in a not so subtle way. Last thing you need is to sit there for another two hours listening to the ramblings of a lunatic, then when you try to kiss her at the end, you will be the cool "friend" who's only role is to listen to her babblin'. Kino that shows your sexual interest/intentions is a must on this one; the earlier the better.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

she was probably excited and nervous about meeting you - hence she rambled on a lot. A 2nd chance is maybe deserved IF you a) fancy her, or b) want her as a friend

You will need to take charge though and get a lot more cosie with her unless you want it to go the same was as before. whatever you do, try not to meet and have the coffee date go the same way again because it was not good for you. maybe you should both go and do another activity to mix it up a little? is she into any sports? how about getting a drink inside her at a bar...

happy hunting ;-)