Help with this girl

[Thundergod]

Hello everyone, I registered to this forum because I have a problem with a girl and since I consider her to be very important, I don't want to screw up more than I already have, so why not ask for advices?
It's a pretty long story, I'll try to keep it as short as possible, if you need any other info I'll share
So...
I know this girl for like 6 years, there's always been a special connection between us but we never went "deeper". we both had our partners (I actually had many more than her, she had just 1)
I enjoyed it that way and always avoided playing tricks on her (you know, the DJ stuff...) so we were friends you can say (not a friendzone friendship of course!)
BUT, this last months I decided to go deeper, too bad I totally lost my game and made probably every mistake humanly possibile, so obviously she rejected me.
She said that I didn't give her enough attention and that I did not care about her, so she can't have a serious relationship without these things
obviously I parted ways with her, but recently she asked for a meeting explaining exactly why she didn't want to stay with me and blablabla
Now, I have no intention on giving up on her... so, what do you guys think I should do?

 

[thunder_god]

Screw the meeting. I would tell her something like " I think your a great girl and I think we have great chemistry together, I'm not looking to just be friends with you, if you ever change your mind and want to go out as more than just friends, give me a call", then walk away and wait for her to reach out to you.

 

[sylvester the cat]

Or meet up and escalate to the high heavens.

If she wants to meet then she's dtf. Screw what she says. Either that or she's an attention wh0re.

Only one way to find out. Through action.

 

[Thundergod]

Thunder_god (lol basically same nickname). I've already made clear what my intentions are with her and I even told her that there's absolutely no way that I change my mind. I forgot to mention that we had no type of contact with her for 5 months, but since she had a very important test I wished her good luck. Then she started texting me, but I've always maintained the upper hand in the conversation.

Sylvester, that's exactly what I want to go for. There's no way I give up on her! Let's talk about action then, what do you propose? I want to go for the "yes, you're important but I can't make my life revolve around you" and stuff like that. Plus some of the listening things (she complained that I do not listen to her problems and that I don't care about her, which are both extremely wrong)

 

[Thundernuts]

Man everyone is stealing my thunder.

Tell her hoe you feel and then go NC. Let her come to you when she is ready to date you if you meet her you are accepting that she won't be yours since she wants to meet you to tell you why. See her on your terms not hers.

Grow some nuts.

 

[Thundergod]

Man everyone is stealing my thunder.

Tell her hoe you feel and then go NC. Let her come to you when she is ready to date you if you meet her you are accepting that she won't be yours since she wants to meet you to tell you why. See her on your terms not hers.

Grow some nuts.

I told her already how I feel and I went no contact for months. She asked me if she can see me and I said yes after some days. She made the "I must explain you why" as an excuse to meet me because I told her that she could tell me by message but she said no, only face to face. I said no to that, several days later she asked me to see her and I accepted because I figured that if I wanted to try again I must see her sooner or later

 

[sylvester the cat]

Thunder_god (lol basically same nickname).

Sylvester, that's exactly what I want to go for. There's no way I give up on her! Let's talk about action then, what do you propose? I want to go for the "yes, you're important but I can't make my life revolve around you" and stuff like that. Plus some of the listening things (she complained that I do not listen to her problems and that I don't care about her, which are both extremely wrong)

forget the fancy, melodramatic words - leave that to her. she's right - you talk too much! Keep your mouth shut and just concentrate on what you're going to do.

Use your hands to touch and caress, use your eyes to devour. When you sit together make sure you are sitting next to one another like you are together as opposed to opposite one another like your opposed to one another. etc etc etc

if you get no response from that eject and don't waste your time with her again.

 

[Thundergod]

we've met. I did as you suggested sylvester: no talking (not literally) just listening
I did every other trick in the book too and everything went fine
when we were about to leave (it was raining) we were very close, she smiled at me and then I left (we both have boyfriend and girlfriend though). I think it was the right choice because she already knows how I feel about her and I don't want her to think that she can get the upper hand again. She contacted me the next day on whatsapp for chit-chat, then she came up with this thing she must give me (I don't know what that is) so I'll guess there will be a second time
You guys think that I should ask her out or that I have to wait that she asks (she will) ?
Remember the "backstory"!