Help With The Close

[Disco]

I've started talking to this cutie at the gym. She has been noticing me and I her for a couple of months now. The gym is a tricky place to pick up girls and I normally don't do it b/c I'll surely run into her/them again and that could be awkward.

Anyway, told a joke, introduced myself, now today I was going to go for the kill, but refrained. Why? Well this girl was on a bike two down from mine. I played it like I didn't notice her, even though when I was going to take a water break I was going to say hi. Turns out she got off her bike, I looked over and said hey, ***, how you doing? She returned with the usual small talk. She then asked if I went to shcool tody (college) and I said I was out of college. She then said "me too pretty much, I'm finishing up my internship." Then went on to work. I told her where I worked and she then said "That's too weird, that's where I'll be in two months. Do you know so and so?" A no from me, "I work in a closet down there and pretty much stay on the grind." She said
"well I'll stop bye and see you." I said "I'll talk to you before then I'm sure."

I would love to take this girl out and think I have it. What's a good way to bring up the boyfriend situation and knock this thing out tomorrow afternoon. I'm good looking and confident, just want to be a little different than other guys that may hit on her.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Disco
I would love to take this girl out and think I have it. What's a good way to bring up the boyfriend situation and knock this thing out tomorrow afternoon. I'm good looking and confident, just want to be a little different than other guys that may hit on her.

In my eyes, the boyfriend does not exist until she brings him up. Why put unnecessary obsticles in your own path? Since you are confident, just tell her that you are going to do her a favor, if she takes you out to lunch/dinner/her place you will fill her in on the ins and outs of xyz company.

 

[uniassign]

just tell her that you are going to do her a favor, if she takes you out to lunch/dinner/her place you will fill her in on the ins and outs of xyz company.

Too much supplication without her demonstrating enough value. You are using this as BAIT to get her to spend time with you. That's BAD because it implies that YOU don't have enough VALUE in yourself to spend time with her.

The making of an excuse is BAD. A confident person would just ASK.

So that's what you should do. Talk to her next time, have a few pleasant conversation (to demonstrate value - go deeper rapport with more than just fluff talk), and ask her when she finishes her workout. If she is at all interested, she will say soon, and then you say we must continue this discussion, how about joining you for a drink?

Easy

 

[Disco]

Awsome advice, I didn't fully understand about placing them on a pedastal until now. Why assume she's even worthy of a bf? Great advice, thannks.