Help with POF

[RichardTheFrog]

I don't know what to do. I know that many people have suggested not using POF, but I think that is just running from the problem. There are very many people who use POF successfully.

I am sending messages to the girls and they are viewing my profile, yet all I have managed to get is one FAT GIRL who wouldn't even let me be her f*** buddy without getting into a relationship with her.

Do I have to look like Chad? Is there anyone on here who is actually successful on POF?

I do not believe that it has anything to do with writing some amazing profile, and I don't even think being a millionaire would help me. I don't know what to do. I don't think I'm ugly, and if I am... I don't know when I got that way, because I wasn't always ugly.

This is so ****1ng frustrating, especially when I know that if any of these girls ever do actually respond, they probably have 3 cats, watch TV all day, are overweight, and do drugs daily. What is the ****1ing deal?

I truthfully believe that I'm a catch. I'm smart. I'm not obese. I'm about to be rich. I can hold a conversation on anything if the girl is even capable of that or cares. I don't do drugs. I barley drink.

 

[The Duke]

Can you provide a link to your profile?

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Can you provide a link to your profile?

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=156441427

 

[The Duke]

Frog- your profile needs thrown in the garbage.

1. I have told you this before...figure out a new name for "house flipper". It's immature sounding and not at all professional.
2. You spelled "estate" wrong.
3. Change your username.
4. Talk about your personality, likes, what you are looking for etc.
5. Your opening line is " I make a good amount of money flipping houses. I made $720,000 last year. Should I put that on there" Please delete all of this.
6. Girls typically will not message first. Stating that you want them to doesn't do your cause any good.
7. You need multiple pics.
8. The bathroom mirror shot is so tacky. Throw that away.
9. Get some pics of you out doing fun things, interacting with people.

I really think you could benefit from some "social" training. Was there anybody that was autistic or had Aspergers in your family?

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Frog- your profile needs thrown in the garbage.

1. I have told you this before...figure out a new name for "house flipper". It's immature sounding and not at all professional.
2. You spelled "estate" wrong.
3. Change your username.
4. Talk about your personality, likes, what you are looking for etc.
5. Your opening line is " I make a good amount of money flipping houses. I made $720,000 last year. Should I put that on there" Please delete all of this.
6. Girls typically will not message first. Stating that you want them to doesn't do your cause any good.
7. You need multiple pics.
8. The bathroom mirror shot is so tacky. Throw that away.
9. Get some pics of you out doing fun things, interacting with people.

I really think you could benefit from some "social" training. Was there anybody that was autistic or had Aspergers in your family?

How does "house flipper" sound immature or unprofessional?

Change my username to what?

My personality.... hateful, angry.....

Delete it and replace it with what?

I'm not good at taking pictures. I don't smile and can't force myself to. I don't go out and have fun with people. Sometimes I go out, but I don't really have fun with people.

 

[RangerMIke]

Get a better picture. You look fine but spend some money and get a profession picture taken. Selfie's suck.

Leave your income off, that stinks of bragging. Rather than talking about what you do and how you make a living, just talk about what you like to do.

Your profile looks like all you have going for you is your business... and no one reading your profile will believe that you make as much as you state. You might be completely truthful but NO ONE is going to believe you because the world is filled with liars.

I agree... "Houseflipper" as a Nom d'Plume is stupid.

 

[MrJack]

I don't know what to do. I know that many people have suggested not using POF, but I think that is just running from the problem. There are very many people who use POF successfully.

I am sending messages to the girls and they are viewing my profile, yet all I have managed to get is one FAT GIRL who wouldn't even let me be her f*** buddy without getting into a relationship with her.

Do I have to look like Chad? Is there anyone on here who is actually successful on POF?

I do not believe that it has anything to do with writing some amazing profile, and I don't even think being a millionaire would help me. I don't know what to do. I don't think I'm ugly, and if I am... I don't know when I got that way, because I wasn't always ugly.

This is so ****1ng frustrating, especially when I know that if any of these girls ever do actually respond, they probably have 3 cats, watch TV all day, are overweight, and do drugs daily. What is the ****1ing deal?

I truthfully believe that I'm a catch. I'm smart. I'm not obese. I'm about to be rich. I can hold a conversation on anything if the girl is even capable of that or cares. I don't do drugs. I barley drink.

First of all the cold hard truth is that any girl worth pursuing on POF (HB8-10 IMO) probably won't message you or message you back unless you are AT LEAST an 8 yourself. You say that's not a problem so the next must haves are as follows:

1. Good pictures of yourself and good pictures of you being social with friends.

2. Get rid of the amount of money you make it comes off desperate and braggish as someone else has said.

3. Have an interesting bio that just makes you look like a normal cool guy. Literally you could google good things to put in your profile that could pertain to anyone's life that gives off value.

Also what are your opening messages like? If you just say "Hey what's up?" Type bs you probs won't even get a response despite the above.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

First of all the cold hard truth is that any girl worth pursuing on POF (HB8-10 IMO) probably won't message you or message you back unless you are AT LEAST an 8 yourself. You say that's not a problem so the next must haves are as follows:

1. Good pictures of yourself and good pictures of you being social with friends.

2. Get rid of the amount of money you make it comes off desperate and braggish as someone else has said.

3. Have an interesting bio that just makes you look like a normal cool guy. Literally you could google good things to put in your profile that could pertain to anyone's life that gives off value.

Also what are your opening messages like? If you just say "Hey what's up?" Type bs you probs won't even get a response despite the above.

The amount of money is the only thing that would make me and 8 or above in some people's eyes.

But I've come to realize that POF is trash. I haven't gone out much lately, I'm just hoping the real world is better, but I don't have high hopes.

Also, some of the more successful guys here told me they just say "how are you" or "what's up sexy" and they get a response.

I don't want to be a normal, cool guy. I want to stand out.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Well I just got another match on POF. This one has 5 kids, none of which live with her, but according to her profile I shouldn't ask why.

Also, she just got out of a bad relationship.

Lol.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

What amazes is that no matter how PATHETIC the girl... she will always think she is your equal.

I could make a million bucks, break my neck, cure cancer..... and she could sit on her ass and play with 5 kitty cats.... and she will still think that it should be me trying to impress her.

This sh1t is truly retarded.

 

[MrJack]

The amount of money is the only thing that would make me and 8 or above in some people's eyes.

But I've come to realize that POF is trash. I haven't gone out much lately, I'm just hoping the real world is better, but I don't have high hopes.

Also, some of the more successful guys here told me they just say "how are you" or "what's up sexy" and they get a response.

I don't want to be a normal, cool guy. I want to stand out.

It is trash I agree. But the dudes that say "how's it going" and "what's up sexy" must have a damn good profile and have good looks because any girl on POF that you'd actually want to **** wouldn't respond to that shyt if she thinks the guy (based off his profile) is of lower quality than herself. You got a match and she responded? Great but she's also a woman with 5 kids and fresh out of a bad relationship..AKA probs not a quality girl to bother with. This is all IMO or maybe I have high standards idk.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

It is trash I agree. But the dudes that say "how's it going" and "what's up sexy" must have a damn good profile and have good looks because any girl on POF that you'd actually want to **** wouldn't respond to that shyt if she thinks the guy (based off his profile) is of lower quality than herself. You got a match and she responded? Great but she's also a woman with 5 kids and fresh out of a bad relationship..AKA probs not a quality girl to bother with. This is all IMO or maybe I have high standards idk.

I still don't understand how making $720,000/year doesn't make me high value in their minds?

Especially when they have next to nothing and live with their parents?

 

[switch7]

I still don't understand how making $720,000/year doesn't make me high value in their minds?

Especially when they have next to nothing and live with their parents?

You ever thought about taking a chunk of that cash and throwing an event? Hire out a cool club and put on some cool underground djs. Pay some popular people to promote it(they love doing that kind of stuff), throw a decent amount of cash at it and try to atleast break even. By the end of it you would know a lot of people of whom who would look at you as the guy who throws cool party's. It's easy pu$$y.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

You ever thought about taking a chunk of that cash and throwing an event? Hire out a cool club and put on some cool underground djs. Pay some popular people to promote it(they love doing that kind of stuff), throw a decent amount of cash at it and try to atleast break even. By the end of it you would know a lot of people of whom who would look at you as the guy who throws cool party's. It's easy pu$$y.

That's a good idea. But I should probably change my last name first, or at least change it on Facebook.