Help with Hot/Immature at work!

[Rashad]

Ok, this girl works at Kay Jewelers, right next to my Verizon kiosk. She is about 110 lbs, is about 5' 4" , and has Double D's. She is also 20 and very immature.

She has a thing for me big time.. when we met i had a gf...and did until recently. But things got ugly awhile ago:

she always says things like "Theres a cute guy who works at Verizon and i wish he would ask me out!!!" at the top of her lungs...while i was in a relationship.

Always flirting, dropping hints etc.. i came into the mall in jeans that uhm fit well, and she was ALL OVER ME. A coworker of mine who also has a crush on me, always tells me what this girl says about me. She thinks im hott etc etc..


Anyways, a few months ago, while in a relationship, i wanted to hang out and get to know her because i was thinking about ending my relationship. Well she felt like the second fiddle and no-showed me TWICE! The second time she set up the date!

I ignored her for about two months lol... she pissed me off.

Well ever since my breakup she is back at it again and i told her im not going to ignore her but made it clear why i did it...she still has bitterness towards me but it depends on the damn day...(and whether im in jeans apparently)

Well today i got sick of her ****.. I commented on her wearing heels, and gave her a neg hit of "they actually make you look feminine" She got self conscious and started talking about her Double D's.... that lead to me laughing at her and her getting more pissed off.

Then somehow she got to blurt out "I wouldn't let you in my pants if you were the last guy on earth!!"

Now, that isnt true. But she did it because her co-workers were standing there, and i think she wanted to look like she "won."

Instead of being obnoxious, i sent her a text message...verbatim:

"Trying to make me look bad in front of your co workers will not boost your self esteem. What do i have to do to make it clear i do not want near your pants? I dont mind working near you, you are nice occasionally. But everytime you talk I am reminded why i am not attracted to you."

Now maybe that was a little harsh, but i dont really care too much what the outcome is.

Honestly i would **** the snot out of her for ten days straight... but i dont NEED to. I mean, there is a cute little chica that works the lotion booth.. i think shes Israeli...

My question is..do you think i should still try to nail this chick or just next her? I mean, she wont let well enough alone and always seems to want me to talk to her or validate her in some way. Yet she will never meet up to hang out..

 

[Who is John Gault?]

She sounds like a Histrionic case... or AW. She gets her power trip from feeling validated. Lack of validation = power, and she'll do whatever you want as long as you keep her hanging on.

Quit validating her actions, and start acting like you're better than her. Tell her she'll never be able to get in your pants and remember to throw in a bit of the cold shoulder if she's looking for attention. Don't feel like you have a need to personally tell her if she upsets you. Thats just feeding the trolls.

Another thing i noticed is that you seem to base your judgment solely on how a woman looks. Try to evaluate the person as a whole instead of just looking at their ass. Look at it this way, she's a mental case... you deserve better than that. You're looking for a girl that is sane, and you will not compromise for some psychotic bimbo who'll make your life a living hell. However, if she gets on her knees and begs you *might* let her suck your d1ck but with no emotional attachment on your part.

That's my philosophy and it helps me stay sane.

 

[Rashad]

I think you hit the nail on the head with her. She is young and immature, and is desperately seeking validation. Being just out of a breakup i "was" too, but i have stopped completely now, and am totally aware when i slip, thanks to this site.

And aside from looks she is a great person... in fact i didnt see this side of her until i started to ignore her and then we had a love/hate thing going on ever since.. but like a true afc i apologized in the beginning so that probably hurt me.

 

[j81]

Do you work at the lycoming mall? lol

 

[Rashad]

LMAO... i might as well admit that i do since my name is my login. whos this?

 

[j81]

lol, you dont know me. I am from state college, and used to live in williamsport and I saw you were from williamsport. So I just figured you worked at the lycoming mall, lol.

 

[Rashad]

ok good. haha, so you arent like her best friend. WHEW.

Lesson: dont ever make your name a forum username...doh.

 

[j81]

No. You're safe.
Although that would of been a fun way to mess with you though, lol.

 

[betterthandead]

It goes both ways for those who see a pessimistic view of this. Sure she may want validation but she's giving you attention at the same time bumping you up. You feel good about yourself because a girl fancies you whether seriously or not seriously.

In my books when you generally feel "like a pimp" it's always that magical moment where you should do cold pick ups of women you meet on the street/etc. It's in this "like a pimp" moment where you feel confident, and women know this well, that's why they love attention all the time because it generally makes them feel like a pimp.

 

[Rashad]

thanks betterthandead, so basically use her attention to help boost my confidence and then use it for a girl more worth the effort? Good stuff.