okay, me and this girl who is soooo freakin hot have been hanging out for about 6 months now. before we started hanging out we were in serious relationships and we werent really looking for anything serious. well things have progressed alot in the 6 months. everything that goes on feels like we are pretty much together but we havent really had a talk about it as to what we officially are. i know the dj bible says to never ask the girl to be your girlfriend, wait for her to bring that up. well, im wondering if there is something i can do to speed that up. i need to do something that will put her on edge and start to pursue me more because i think she might have the idea that she already has me. the reason i want to get her to bring up this topic to make it official is because i think if things keep going at the rate it is now, ill eventually get the LJBF. my guess is to ignore all contact for a few days. the only problem is this: i dont want to ignore her calls and contact for a couple days and have her think im pissed at her about something and give up on it completely. thanks in advance bros.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
help with HB situation...
- Thread starter cmr662
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Kaine
Senior Don Juan
You need to sleep with her
make your intentions known, and move up to the next level. instead of heading to a local eatery that guys always do. tell her that you guys are going to eat at a fancy restaurante or any activity that will signal exclusivity. and probably by the end of the night, you will really know what's going between you guys. good luck bro!
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Yeah, right! Why don't you also buy her flowers and tell her she is the most beautiful thing you've ever seen and how you can see yourself with a woman like her. If it is not obvious to her, then tell her that you two need to "talk", then confess your love for her. That should do the trick.Originally posted by t00dumb
make your intentions known, and move up to the next level. instead of heading to a local eatery that guys always do. tell her that you guys are going to eat at a fancy restaurante or any activity that will signal exclusivity. and probably by the end of the night, you will really know what's going between you guys. good luck bro!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
stalluproar
Senior Don Juan
Give her the gift of missing you. Keep busy. When she is wondering why you haven't called. Tell her you were waiting for her to call you and take you out.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
your still living in her world. where the fact that she's been in a LTR for 5 years blah blah blah makes a difference to you, and that u should listen to her and respect her to get what u want.
Nobody ever got sex by asking for it. Not even the cavemen.
Nobody ever got sex by asking for it. Not even the cavemen.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Your worrying about sh#t that you don't need to worry about.
If you pull back on the contact and she loses interest in you - then that's a good thing, because at least you know where you stand.
You should never have got to this situation in the first place.
Instead of pulling back - you probably should first push the issue. Not by talking, but by doing.
You said you've come close to sex with her. If this is true you guys have kissed etc.
So just keep pushing the envelope.
Have her over to your place.... and keep pushing that envelope.
You should ACT like she's yours.
If she doesn't dig it or LJBF's you - then you start working other women (which by the way you should be anyways).
Now if you had read the DJ bible, and had been wroking other chicks, this situation would not have occured, because you would be out there dating and fvcking other women. You'd be busy.
If you pull back on the contact and she loses interest in you - then that's a good thing, because at least you know where you stand.
You should never have got to this situation in the first place.
Instead of pulling back - you probably should first push the issue. Not by talking, but by doing.
You said you've come close to sex with her. If this is true you guys have kissed etc.
So just keep pushing the envelope.
Have her over to your place.... and keep pushing that envelope.
You should ACT like she's yours.
If she doesn't dig it or LJBF's you - then you start working other women (which by the way you should be anyways).
Now if you had read the DJ bible, and had been wroking other chicks, this situation would not have occured, because you would be out there dating and fvcking other women. You'd be busy.