"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Help with girl who "flaked"

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Been dating this girl about 2½ months now. We were supposed to go out tonight, but she calls about noon today and leaves a voicemail. She says her dad has come in from out of town and asked her to eat dinner. She always speaks very highly of her dad, so I can buy this story, but I have always been VERY hard to convince that a girl's excuse is legitimate. I'm from the school of thought that says; if a girl is interested in you, she'll do everything in her power to see you.

Well she asked me to call her back in the voicemail, which I never did. Then she called me back around 6pm for some reason. She didn't leave a voicemail that time. I'm not calling her back tonight. How should I play this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You should have called her back and said 'no problem' about her plans with her Dad.
Make other plans with her tommorrow.
 
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KnickKnack, seems to me your the one flaking this time. Do you ditrust girls that much? I mean her dad came from out of town and wants to eat dinner with her. Call her immediately and tell her thats fine and make plans with her some other time. Seems to be pretty legit to me.
 
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Dido

Obviously this girl is close to her family/dad. You have to respect this, call her immediatly. Women usually value their family a lot and he dad coming to town is exciting for her. Let her know its cool and see if she wants to do something this weekend. Tell her you would like to meet her dad, she will dig that up bigtime.
 
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Seems like you've been fuvked over in the past and your being a little insecure about that with this girl. You've been dating for over 2 months!!! Its OK if she can't make it one time time bro!!! She's not flaking on you, she even called you a second time today!!! Calm down, call her back, tell her you understand and you'll reschedule for later on in the week. Don't blow this by reading too much in to the PUA mentality.

If you keep this up, she'll end up being fed up with you, not the other way around.


PIMP
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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yeah try not to freak out so much..
if you have been getting a vibe for the last month or so that she's not interested then your behaviour is justified..

otherwise you are being irrational and paranoid
 
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yeah, i'm pretty cautious these days because of what i've seen in the past. i called her this morning and didn't reach her. just left her a voicemail hoping her dinner was good. we'll see what happens. i'm glad i didn't talk to her last night before reading these responses. sometimes i just protect myself from leaning in too much and being a wussy. hopefully she wasn't too distraught at me not talking to her yesterday :)

thanks for the advice.
 
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Maybe she had to meet with her dad? What's so hard to believe about that? Why is it that anytime a woman has to change her plans we IMMEDIATELY personalize it and let it hit our egos and make us think that she must not like us? If you automatically assume that, you are going to fvck shyt up before it even starts.

It's kinda selfish to assume that if a girl isn't walking 1,000 miles for us, that she's "not interested". Let her do her thing. Nothing happened here, yet. Not until YOU fvck it up by assuming that her actions mean that she 'flaked' and doesn't like you anymore. It's a product of your own insecurity. Period.
 
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Call her back the next day and play it off. You've been seeing her for a while now so I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. You didn't need to call her back immediately though.
 
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You have been seeing her for over 2 months so you have nothing to worry about.

If she pulled this prior to your first date then I'd be worried.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Chill out

Man.

Chill out.

Stop calling her! If she likes you shes gonna call you back and re schedule something, if not, disappear.
Say nothing, just go away!
 
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It doesn't matter if her excuse was genuine. The bottom line either way is that she had something with a higher priority to do.

It's not like you have a major strategic decision to make based on that fact. You aren't going to NEXT her for it.

You are going to just play it as normal and see what happens next time. If she keeps flaking, THEN you have a decision to make.
 
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