Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Great PostSnow Plowman said:So many different ways...but the #1 thing
FIELD EXPERIENCE
Without thousands of approaches you won't have the reference points, experience, or internalization. Guys who are learning this to try and game 1 specific girl don't ever get a tight game, because they are focused more on getting that ONE girl instead of changing who they are and transform into a guy who is good with women and can consistently get them.
Now there are many different routes that you can go, but ulitmately the same stuff is going on. Your basically changing your "Personality" or more detailed your changing some or all of your thought patterns and behavior patterns and internalizing it. Your also learning the fundamentals of how attraction works, how the female mind works, social dynamics, and an actual structure (Which isn't linear and rather flexible) to get used to the overall mechanics that help you go from "Hi" to "OMGGGG"
In the case of Mystery Method routines is a way of giving you routines so your mind doesn't have to think about what to say. When this happens you can focus more on sub-communication since that is what actually gets the women.
The best way that I've found which took awhile to find was to consciously change your thought patterns and behavior patterns. I think this is by far the longest and needs the most work, but at the end of the day in the long run you will become a better person.
What I did...
For one month I sat and wrote out everything that I wanted to have and internalize in my life. I wrote down...
- My Thought Patterns
- The Behavior Patterns that conveyed that specific Thought Pattern (This took the longest)
- How I want my lifestyle to be later on in life
- My passions and overall life goals
- My Standards (Things I want in a girl and also qualify them on this in the interaction)
- A customized Strucuture based around your personality (Now I don't memorize it but I just have it in my head as a sort of reference to help me solve problems in the interaction.)
Note - When I say a structure I'm talking about the so called "Community" Tactics, such as opening, venue changing, isolating, etc. Basically setting up your own customized structure that will complement your thought and behavior patterns.
So after that one month...I spent...
SIX Months internalizing the thought and behavior patterns. (I have a long way before I internalize everything) What I did was take one thought pattern and internalized all the behavior patterns that go with that thought pattern for a month.
At the same time I work on the overall mechanics of pickup. How to open a set, how to get the chicks leaving the venue with me, how to handle the friends if they dislike me, etc.
Basically do all that and you'll see your game sky rocketing.
Now I can't stress how important it is to get MASSIVE field experience. You shouldn't even be focusing on trying to get any particular girl for a good year or two just so you focus on improving yourself overall. Once your in that mindset you can just hit up set after set and learn a sh!tload.
Through the course of it all you'll have many shattered realities, realizations, good and bad times, FUN, FUN, and FUN.
If your a Newbie you'd want to be hitting up 10-20 sets each day you choose to go out and practice. While there isn't no set standard of how many days a week to go out and practice, best rule is the more the better and quicker the process will be. So 1-2 days a week you won't be getting much opposed to 3-4 days. Now 6-7 days a week, expect to learn sh!tloads. After awhile your sets get longer and you start getting lays, women, day2s, #s and so the amount of sets you open a day will start getting lower and lower. Especially since now you'll be in sets longer than you used too.
This is how you actually get good, it takes effort and you have to go through the whole process. I usualy laugh when dudes think there pimps because they got ONE specific girl and then next day there wondering how to get some other girl.
If you focus on consistently getting women overall and becoming a better man then you'll have choice of who you want. You can NOW go for specific girl and most of the time you'll end up getting them, because you've had so much experience that getting one girl is rather easy. But then again it won't even matter anymore because if you don't get her you can always get the girl next to her because you know how.