help with club pickups - PLEASE!

[TheFlyingMan]

I've been working on my club game, and I have got 2 out of 3 situations covered

1) I'm dancing, she's dancing (well in the mood) - I'm a pretty good dancer and most of my friends compete in break battles so that attracts a lot of positive attention, easy to get a grind and make-out session (sometimes without saying a word)

2) At a bar, she's standing next to me. A simple Hi works most of the time.

What I'm stuck on, is bloody pissing me off. I saw a HB 8 with her friends. They were on the dance floor, and she's moving close to me. Looking over my way sometimes but when I try to establish eye contact she looks away again. But I don't think she's the type that I can just grab and grind. But the music is on, so I can't talk very well!

I need tips please! Reading mystery method, it says go for the leader. I don't know who the leader is, they're all just standing around nodding their heads to the beat. And all look bored. Worse, I can't tell stories or whatever because they're all trying to dance. I think. Plus they can't hear me anyway. Best I can do is whisper in the ear of the one I want, but is that a good idea? I strongly believe in MM's group theory, having put it in action by accident a few times and having it work damn well!

What's the best way! Isolate straight away?! Driving me nuts, cos I didn't do a damn thing and she was my type of girl! I wanna know what to do next time this happens!

 

[grr]

I choked in a similar situation and realized I should use levity next time. Like, talk about some of the ****ty/funny dancers with them, just laugh with them and then go away and come back and talk about anything but her and I.. something external and obviously funny. Bit by bit, just sharing moments with them that don't make them feel insecure. Laughing at the slippery dance floor or the DJ's lais should be a good, non-committing bonding experience.

During one of these moments they leave the door open, you walk in. Otherwise she isn't attracted to you, anyway.

 

[TheFlyingMan]

cheers mate

Would you just go in and whisper funny stuff to the one you want? Cos I can't open the group, none of them can hear me on the dancefloor!

EDIT: Any help would be appreciated!

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Man clubs,parties,events,etc..are all about looks & style.I noticed that along time ago.

Something I always get at the club is girls screaming in my ear..talking about how tall I am,built I am.I'm pretty convinced they only care about **** like that in the long run cuz of club situations specifically.

Not dancing or being a horrible dancer is a turn off & not paying for a drink if she asks---that's in the movies or in tv,girls don't ask guys for drinks unless they've been talking for a hot minute--is also a major turnoff to them.

Yeah it's mostly survival of the fittest there,it gets real primal in the club they'll go after you.I don't ever throw myself at women,I most i softly touch a girl to get her attention if I like her.

Usually they come up dancing to you,around you,staring at you--that's what you need to look for.Just dance with her or talk to them (especially if you're far off and they come outta nowhere,that's a "fawk me" signal) & you're good.

But like I said Clubs aren't good for guys that are strictly verbal gamers,the ball is exclusivley in there court in there and they don't play.

 

[TheFlyingMan]

exactly...I'm not a verbal guy, I like my kino and my dancing...but I very rarely get girls who approach me out of nowhere, best I get is some body language, eye flirts, and dancing behind me, etc.

Like I said, this particular brand of chick is getting to me. Not wild enough that I can just grab and grind, not being available to chat to because she's surrounded by friends, and yet standing behind or beside me where-ever I go.

So you're saying talk to them? Whisper into their ear (pretty much the only way they can hear me?) Normally I say a basic "Hi" to open them, but on the dance floor it's kinda wierd to walk up to her and whisper hi in their ear. It's very different (I feel) then being at the bar, where's she standing aroudn looking or ordering drinks. What do I say? I know grab and grind is outta the question, I can feel it mostly when someone's open to a bit of rubbing...