“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Help with class pick up

Downrock27

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I'm a biology major in college, and my class meets only 1 day a week and the rest is on your own time lab work. There is this girl in my class that I occasionally see in the bio lab as well. I think she likes me but of course there is no way of knowing. Being a huge ***** I really didnt talk to her at all until last night.

I have a group of girls that I hang out with and do labwork with, none more than a HB6 and thus I have no problem talkin to them . This girl from class has made a couple approaches to the group as a whole to ask about course work. She seems really shy about it but I got the feeling she was asking in hopes that I would talk to her.

So yesterday I did and we ended up talking for about 5 minutes about how tough this assignment was...how she needed to get it done today because she didnt want to drive back tomorrow because it was a long drive etc. After a few minutes of talking my ***** self decided to walk back to where my notes were and start reading them.

I should have found some way to get her number or ask her out for coffee right then but I just wasn't thinking.

Her ride was leaving so she had to go, of course I was just sitting there studying when she left.

Anyways next class is the last class of the year, probably the last chance i'll get to see her. I'm planning to ask her out for coffee or something like that, just dont know how to go about it.

She usually comes to class right when it starts so there is no time then. After class is the only possibility I see but her friend is always right at her side and they leave together. Any ideas guys about how I can open and lead to asking her in the particular situation? Thanks.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ask her out then......if you need us to tell you HOW to do it you probably need to get out and sarge more often to teach yourself

If it was me I'd simply ask for her phone number to see if she wants to hang out sometime. Don't overcomplicate this.:)
 

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and how is her friend being there a problem ? are u trying to keep it a secret that u like women :rolleyes:
 

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If her friend worries you, just go up to them and ask the bird you're after if you can have a word, take her hand and walk a few meters away so you're out of talking distance with her friend and ask her! :) gl with it mate!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'd recommend asking her to coffee when class is over. I've had 10x more success by having "instant mini-dates" than just getting a phone number. The phone games women play don't usually end with a date unless you've had enough rapport.
 

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Originally posted by Shiftkey
I'd recommend asking her to coffee when class is over. I've had 10x more success by having "instant mini-dates" than just getting a phone number. The phone games women play don't usually end with a date unless you've had enough rapport.
id give this one a 2 thumbs up ... ! .... simple, to the point, and you get your IL way up from the get-go

After the date, get her number and walk off ....
 

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Originally posted by TxCowboy
id give this one a 2 thumbs up ... ! .... simple, to the point, and you get your IL way up from the get-go

After the date, get her number and walk off ....
*HER IL
 

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I kinda glazed over this part in my first reply...

She usually comes to class right when it starts so there is no time then. After class is the only possibility I see but her friend is always right at her side and they leave together. Any ideas guys about how I can open and lead to asking her in the particular situation? Thanks.
Say hi to both of them, then after they are aware of you put your hand on her back and physically guide her away from her friend while rhetorically asking the target's friend if you could borrow the target for a moment. You already have rapport with her so this shouldn't be a problem - your target's friend might even know about you already. Once she's seperated from her friend, tell her you're going to get some coffee and ask if she wants to join you. After you ask this, shut up and let her respond. She sounds a little shy so she might hesitate.

If she's "busy" go for the number. At this point if probably won't go anywhere, but it's good to be persistant.
 

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personally, I would do it like shiftkey recommends.

also though, if you see her every week in class or lab, you can try to get some rapport going. it doesn't take a lot out of you to get your a$$, and just saunter up to the girl and talk during lab, I do this stuff all the time.

one tip in my opinion, if she's one of those "always travels in packs" type of girls... don't be afraid to address both girls, and be exceedingly nice to the non-target girl too even if she's not the one you like... girls that travel in tight packs will always consult their friends about guys, and if you simply walk up to the hot girl and freeze out her friend... later on the hot girl will ask her friend about you, and you'll most likely get a bad review. that's something that's happened to be a bunch of times in the past and I've only begun to realize the importance of being sociable to all the girls around. so just be yourself, and good luck with that one.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Thanks guys. I like the idea of asking her out right after the class. Although being nearly the last week of school everyone usually ends up goin straight to the lab after class so she could be legitimately busy. Nothing I can do about that, all i can do is ask and find out. Hopefully this will be the start of me actually initiating interaction with girls, rather than just wait for them to talk to me like usual.
 
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