"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I woukd like to add at the second year of our marriage she would slept far corner of our bed from me, giving breastfeed to our son as her reason.. It was the attachment anxiety!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Think the matter is resolved for now. Thanks for the help guys, a friend in need is a friend indeed. :)
 

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#update..

Serving a total 11 days @ jail over false allegation, and i retain my job. Today at the family court hoovering has started after a year and half, shes started to mirroring again, crying over her parents have to support her life and whining about her age getting older @33 yrs and has no job, (like im going to give a damn).. Shes splicing her behavior back to the days when we are married, like nothing happened and all is fine, bringging the illusion of our relationship back to life... The heck! i ignored every of her pathetic attemps. Gonna keep posting to you guys.
 

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#update..

Serving a total 11 days @ jail over false allegation, and i retain my job. Today at the family court hoovering has started after a year and half, shes started to mirroring again, crying over her parents have to support her life and whining about her age getting older @33 yrs and has no job, (like im going to give a damn).. Shes splicing her behavior back to the days when we are married, like nothing happened and all is fine, bringging the illusion of our relationship back to life... The heck! i ignored every of her pathetic attemps. Gonna keep posting to you guys.
Aren't BPDs fun...…. lol they're a bad rash that doesn't go away, thankfully I've haven't heard from my ex BPD in 3 years knock on wood, you gotta make her hate your guts she will stop contacting you.
 

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Man.. Its an experience that i would rather pass on other dudes.. Back home i had to wash off the toxic sludge.. She seems like a broken shard trying to resemblence perfection at best..and then have it shattered again. No fun at all.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Crazy ex wife ?.... Have your attorney do all the talking.
 

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Though apparently resolved, I'd say destroy her - in court, socially, whatever angle you can come up with, think a couple of steps ahead. Label her incapable of raising the kids and take them with you. Possibly try to involve the batsh!t crazy institution once you have some evidence, it can render her completely helpless. Well that'd be my response. I think batsh!t crazy deserves no mercy.
 
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@Dingo Yup will have my attorney on more important matters regarding custody.. And most of it yesterday was a trivial matters involving alimony.. Sense of entitlement all the way bull****, want to take 70% of my monthly salary and stuff lol..

@rber yeah will work in that one and have my youngest daughter a dna check too.
 

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70%....Holy chit! I can only imagine the emotional stress thats caused dragging a BPD into the courts. Not to mention the financial cost. It's starting to become all too common reading these court battles with a BPD. Brad Pitt is constantly in the headlines saying Jolie is putting him thru hell. A few other on this forum saying the same thing. Shari Schreiber said it best. "Having a child with a BPD is a death sentence". Wish you the best of luck through this.
 

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70%....Holy chit! I can only imagine the emotional stress thats caused dragging a BPD into the courts. Not to mention the financial cost. It's starting to become all too common reading these court battles with a BPD. Brad Pitt is constantly in the headlines saying Jolie is putting him thru hell. A few other on this forum saying the same thing. Shari Schreiber said it best. "Having a child with a BPD is a death sentence". Wish you the best of luck through this.
Hellyeah @stovepipe, shes started to appear again at my whatsapp messenger, before this keep messaging the mudsling to my uncle and my mother non stop for a year.. And now i guess shes going directly chasing me again and keeping me around.. As i read bpd person wont let go the person that can detach and throw them away, hell she will be the female james bond now!! Hahaha
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Btw im delaying the court case as much as i can, let her do the chase and become more submissive in this legal issue, which i doubt so, its more on me want to see less of her face as much as i could, trying to get thaf mark off 0% energy wasted in her already wasted life and focus on more productive matters and personal growth.
 
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