"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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help with being interupted

apitt

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Hey, I know this is my first post but I just want to say first that this is a great site.

Anyway I have been talking to this girl after class these last few weeks and whenever we are walking through the hall, there will always be other guys, talking to her. This is fine except for the fact that all her attention is focused from me to them and I feel like my value is lowered because of this.
Do you guys have any tips for how to deal with other guys who talk to her, without me being interupted by them or being rude to them.

Thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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project! be loud and confident so she doesnt WANT them to interrupt her amazing conversation with you! come on now!
 

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Thanks bro, I'll make sure that I am louder than I usually am the next time I speak to her.
 

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Not loud... Simply control the frame!

YOU rule the conversation, YOU make it going on, YOU make the topics, you know? :)D) The pressure is sort of on her, and she WANTS to talk to you! SHE is entering YOUR reality, not you in hers.

Your frame is weak, that's why it's being broken all the time. Having a stronger frame causes more pressure, if you know what I mean. I can't explain it well, I hope you have a general idea.

I don't mean pressure her, just make her more interrested, in a way that the ball isn't always on your court, and that you're not always seeking her approval, but instead you slightly show a higher value.

Talking loud may be a way to do that, but it doesn't seem the way to control the frame.
 

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I suggest talking to other girls. Next time you guys walk around, say hi to all the girls you know, and try to have small talk with them while you're with her. That'll show her
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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