"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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help with a girl

Slippery Sam

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so i know this girl i met at camp and we do not live close at all. i rele want to meet up with her again sometime and i am patient enough to do so, and she told me she feels the same way. i do not want the relationship to become boring and just us talking whenever we see each other online, so i was wondering should i not im her when i see that she is on aim or something so she does it first, or should i start up a chat every now and then? also i would like some tips on how to make a good facebook that shows DHVs
thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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true romance

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give her a call..speak on the phone. flirt, funny, tell her good stories..etc

For facebook and IM..keep in moderation, wouldn't use this too much

don't stay too long on the phone 10 min max and always end the conversation..keep her wanting you more.

Now go out and live your life..find other girls closer to your house.
 

Axcell

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LTR's hardly work in high school, find a girl who lives close to you.
Instant messengers/phones should only be used as tools to contact a girl to make plans to see each other in person.
 

Slippery Sam

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well, i kno that aim stuff is supposed to b like that, but i when i met her i tried to use everything i knew about being a DJ that i learned from this site, and yes it worked out extremely well. not to brag or anything but we did get "really" close on the last day and for me thats a major improvement in my game so i want to keep this goin
 

SinJester

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MEET HER IN PERSON

Relationships starting on or based on online chat DONT WORK OUT. They should only be used as a tool for comfort after she is attracted to you in person.

Ok I think I read your story wrong, but id it's a long distace relationshop you should really consider if that's what you want. I don't really see the point if you can barely ever see her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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