"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Help with a girl who's a close friend

adit

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Ok since the last girl I went out with has a boyfriend,I'm going to try for this one girl I already know.She's a very close friend of mine,and I'm probably in the 'friend zone' right now.She calls me up a lot of times but only to talk about her problems and to get a few jokes out of me.

But now I plan to use the DJ principles on her.I've read the bible too.

So,firstly,how do I get her to go out with me,one to one?The main problem is that she comes from a rich family and I'm just average guy.Not that it matters,but it just makes me feel a little low sometimes.I want to get over that,so please give a few pointers.

Secondly,we both know we're very close friends,but she doesn't think I 'like' her in 'that' way.Would she be shocked if I move forward to her?If yes,how long should I give it to let her gradually know my feelings?

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This is a classic...Here's the formula:

1. Stop letting her use you. She's using you like a emotional support crutch. Stop being available to her and create some distance. If she is even remotely interested in you, she will reinitiate contact.

2. Slow down the phone calls. When she calls, only answer at most twice a week. Even that figure is a bit excessive for me.

3. If you want to do something, do it now. If you want to go out with her, just ask. It really is that easy. Stop worrying about the what-ifs and just do it. The sooner you get an answer, the less time and energy you have to spend pining for and worrying about this girl.

Good luck and godspeed

-Damian
 

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Thanks that was good help.I'm going to follow those.

What else is there to it?

Cheers.
 
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