help with a girl and "friendzone"

[joe somebody101]

hey all. im new to the forums and have read most of the rules. just correct me if i did something wrong...

anyway. this girl in my class and i have been "hi/bye" friends for the past year, and just recently we have started talking more. a couple of weeks ago i got her phone number and we have talked by phone a couple times. she currently doesnt have a boyfriend and she said that she can only get into relationships if she has been good friends with the guy for a while.

Yesterday i asked if she wanted to do something over the weekend and she said yes. she wants me to come to her house or wants to come to my house.

anyway, my question is: do i worry about being in the "friendzone" in this situation. she wants to be friends and we have had a couple of "deep" conversations. But like she said, she would have to be friends before going out with a guy. WTF should i do? go at it in a friend type approach, just smooth and whatever happens happens? or do i go at it very aggresively and kind of push a relationship on her? come on DJs, give me some advice!

BTW, i read most of the topics that could concern this problem, so if i missed the article please just give me the link, i dont need a huge rant or flaming. thanks!

 

[AlexTheGreat]

Originally posted by joe somebody101
hey all. im new to the forums and have read most of the rules. just correct me if i did something wrong...

anyway. this girl in my class and i have been "hi/bye" friends for the past year, and just recently we have started talking more. a couple of weeks ago i got her phone number and we have talked by phone a couple times. she currently doesnt have a boyfriend and she said that she can only get into relationships if she has been good friends with the guy for a while.

Yesterday i asked if she wanted to do something over the weekend and she said yes. she wants me to come to her house or wants to come to my house.

anyway, my question is: do i worry about being in the "friendzone" in this situation. she wants to be friends and we have had a couple of "deep" conversations. But like she said, she would have to be friends before going out with a guy. WTF should i do? go at it in a friend type approach, just smooth and whatever happens happens? or do i go at it very aggresively and kind of push a relationship on her? come on DJs, give me some advice!

BTW, i read most of the topics that could concern this problem, so if i missed the article please just give me the link, i dont need a huge rant or flaming. thanks!

if she wants to come over to your house or you to hers, I'd say she's interested. Don't believe her bull****, and take it aggressively. Start slow, but as the night goes on, move in closer and closer.

Also, would you invite someone you didn't like at your place ?

 

[joe somebody101]

bump

 

[Big Eee Zee]

I agree. Do something that makes you sit close and start playing with her hands or something. flirt a bit, then move on to playing with her hair.

Making out will commence in minutes, unless shes not into you.

 

[xomel]

If she tells you "I cant, we have to be friends."
"Huh - we are friends - What are you talking about? We've been friends for more than a year"

If she tells you this again - " she can only get into relationships if she has been good friends with the guy for a while" Then just tell her:
"Oh cool, good thing for us that we've been friends for over a year!"

Just flirt - attraction will come. If a girl likes you, thats all there is too and, shes yours.

 

[Maeisgood]

I'm in a similar situation. The I like's boyfriend is going to move soon, and I'm already friends with her. I don't think she's the kind of girl to just make out with someone though. How should I deal with this? I think most girls would, but this one is kind of, well, different. She's sort of religious and stuff. Should I like kiss her hand or something? I really don't know what to do. If it doesn't work, the whole school will know.

Joe, you should go for it. I was in your situation a year ago and I regret not having gone for it.