"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Help - Wish my gf had a hotter face
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You have the value the time and experience you have with her. There is a "building" of the relationship per say that will take time with someone else. And many more selfish and vain people WONT build anything with you. They will be worried about themselves. Even someone similar to her you have to go thru the steps.
This upgrading for looks can be an endless cycle, but it's up to you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Can you control yourself or your feelings control you?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Glumix
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Anything wrong with not getting married and going for the women you want ? How old are you ? How many women did you have in your life ?
Jack Hensy
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Let's face it -- appearances don't matter as much as you think -- instead its a "spark" that keeps two people together for a long time.
I have seen it in old people who have lasted 70 years in a marriage. That spark is just there, and while looks fade, it is that twinkle in their eye, that crooked little smile, that infectious laugh that just turns you on like no other. If you had that spark -- you wouldn't think of leaving her. She doesn't do it for you.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I think monogamous marriage is an ideal born not out of fear but rather out of a desire to rise above "true nature".
True nature at its core is selfishness and self-seeking.
Mankind used to strive to rise above this, but not anymore. Now it's every man for himself... the easy path.
Had numerous encounters with women till age of 31 then went into relationships again and that's when I started getting these feelings of "grass is greener" and never fully feeling completely committed to the girl.
Something always bugged me and I'd think I could do better or find similar qualities with missing traits etc
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
