Help - Wish my gf had a hotter face

[Tamura]

Glumix, I like a lot of your posts. But this one... would be worth a discussion in another thread.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

^True story. Periodically the grass always looks greener. Doesn't matter how hot she is. If you're a man, you get curious and bored and want to sample other flavors. You stay with somebody because you actually LIKE them and value all the other attributes they bring to the table. Stop obsessing over looks, OP.

If you are really unsatisfied with her looks, not just nitpicking (if you two lived on a desert island alone would you still be not turned on by her??), then move on.

You have the value the time and experience you have with her. There is a "building" of the relationship per say that will take time with someone else. And many more selfish and vain people WONT build anything with you. They will be worried about themselves. Even someone similar to her you have to go thru the steps.

This upgrading for looks can be an endless cycle, but it's up to you.

 

[Oneday_]

I'm starting to question if I'm even meant to be in relationships lol

 

[Oneday_]

I do enjoy relationships but the constant desire to want another woman while in one makes me question it. None of my friends have these feelings (or at least don't confess to it) and they're all married. Guess it makes me wonder if what I'm going through is normal or if itd ever go away

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I do enjoy relationships but the constant desire to want another woman while in one makes me question it. None of my friends have these feelings (or at least don't confess to it) and they're all married. Guess it makes me wonder if what I'm going through is normal or if itd ever go away

Can you control yourself or your feelings control you?

 

[Glumix]

I do enjoy relationships but the constant desire to want another woman while in one makes me question it. None of my friends have these feelings (or at least don't confess to it) and they're all married. Guess it makes me wonder if what I'm going through is normal or if itd ever go away

Anything wrong with not getting married and going for the women you want ? How old are you ? How many women did you have in your life ?

 

[Jack Hensy]

I was in the same relationship. The best thing you can do is break up. If you don't break up that nagging feeling will get worse over time and you will suffer much regret and start to blame her.
Let's face it -- appearances don't matter as much as you think -- instead its a "spark" that keeps two people together for a long time.
I have seen it in old people who have lasted 70 years in a marriage. That spark is just there, and while looks fade, it is that twinkle in their eye, that crooked little smile, that infectious laugh that just turns you on like no other. If you had that spark -- you wouldn't think of leaving her. She doesn't do it for you.

 

[yuppee]

Have you given this woman your WORD to be loyal to her? A man whose word is no good is a pos.

 

[Atom Smasher]

As a woman, I am incredibly loyal and would be more than capable of lifetime monogamy, if my partner and I were inspired to that choice. However, I think monogamous marriage till death is a societal ideal born out of fear, more than the true nature of men and women and their inherent needs and desires (and those of any children they have.)

I think monogamous marriage is an ideal born not out of fear but rather out of a desire to rise above "true nature".

True nature at its core is selfishness and self-seeking.

Mankind used to strive to rise above this, but not anymore. Now it's every man for himself... the easy path.

 

[Oneday_]

Btw I'm 34 and was always in relationships from ages of 18-24 then decided to be single and just date around.

Had numerous encounters with women till age of 31 then went into relationships again and that's when I started getting these feelings of "grass is greener" and never fully feeling completely committed to the girl.

Something always bugged me and I'd think I could do better or find similar qualities with missing traits etc

 

[ubercat]

34s not a bad time to be looking at settling down. I m channelling @LiveFreeX here he can explain better. But if u want kids I d b shopping for a cute Asian wife 10 years younger. Make great wives and mothers.

 

[yuppee]

I do'nt consider it to be "settling down", it's "finally found her" and it did not happen until quite late in my life.