"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HELP! Wedding, personal loans, etc...

TheLadiesMan

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Help!

I'm the best man for my bro's wedding, and I need to put together a speech by Saturday! ...anyone have a good site, or have an idea on what makes a good speech? All tips, and suggestions are welcomed...

Next problem... I need a loan ($1500) to get myself out of the red, but my credit is crappy. Is there a place, besides my bank that will give a loan to a person like me, and allow me to pay it off month to month?

Problem #3....

I have a little over a month to prepare for a court date. I'm trying to get my child support reduced. I make $10hr, and rent is $580 a month, and my child support is $607.00 a month. Any suggestions and tips will help...

My thanks in advance.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Andy_Dufresne

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Problem #3

CS is steep for your salary. Have you checked it against your state uniform support guidelines?

Also make sure you factor in your ex's salary, plus if she is living with someone or has a spouse you can factor in his salary as well and bring it forward to the judge. If you think she has an advantage, petition her for a financial affidavit.

Also make sure you document all the times that you have had the kids in your possession over the last few months. If you can prove you have them 50/50 or even 75/25 that might work in your favor.

Hope this helps I have a soft spot for any divorced dads that have to pay support.
 

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TheLadiesMan said:
Help!

I'm the best man for my bro's wedding, and I need to put together a speech by Saturday! ...anyone have a good site, or have an idea on what makes a good speech? All tips, and suggestions are welcomed...
...use humor and appease the AFC'ness of the event. My brother's speech was about how it took him 10yrs to figure out two simple words 'Yes Dear'. The entire crowd was laughing. Later my future father in law added 'Right away' to the yes dear. Even more laughter. The best part. My brother is no chump, puts himself first and has a great family. And my father in law is the definition of 'traditional'. They were just having fun with it. Keep it light and fun, you can't go wrong.

TheLadiesMan said:
Next problem... I need a loan ($1500) to get myself out of the red, but my credit is crappy. Is there a place, besides my bank that will give a loan to a person like me, and allow me to pay it off month to month?
... wouldn't that just put you back in the red by $1500? Why don't you consider selling items that you no longer use (not always easy but recovers some of the money quickly before it eventually depreciates to nothing).

TheLadiesMan said:
Problem #3....

I have a little over a month to prepare for a court date. I'm trying to get my child support reduced. I make $10hr, and rent is $580 a month, and my child support is $607.00 a month. Any suggestions and tips will help...

My thanks in advance.
...so you gross and average of about $1733 per month then take away $607 for child support and $580 for rent which leaves you a little over $540 - BEFORE PAYING TAXES! Then add your debt (see # 2 above), utilities, food, gas, etc. I think you need to either get a better paying job or take on another job and hope that your child support does not go up right away. And find a cheaper living solution (not easy but doable).

Sell and work your way out of this rut. You'll learn the more difficult yet better lesson from it. Spending and borrowing your way out will just prolong the inevitable.
 

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My Son is also the ring bearer, I'd like for him to somehow be included in my speech, still, some great advice....

A month to prepare for the hearing... hopefully, I can convince the judge that my son can easily live with me everyother week. Presently, I see him everyother weekend, but that's not by my choice but by his momma.

There's got to be an establishment that will loan me $1500, so I can consolidate my other bills into one, and just make one payment a month till eveyrthing is paid off.

HELP!!!!
 

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In order to appeal child support payments, you basically need a lawyer. I sense you are representing yourself and so I would say it's imperative you promptly hire a lawyer (which I doubt you can do). While it's possible to represent yourself, you must know what you're doing and the courts will not tolerate you otherwise.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I needed a quick grand and borrowed against my 401k......
 

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Dear LadiesMan,
Have you considered that you have loans already,from your creditors,don't get saddled down with more,short term loans carry usurious interest rates......I have been both sides of the counter and have found an honest but firm approach to a creditor with an offer to pay off monthly or a debt moratorium of say three months to allow you to get your head above water,is generally acceptable to them....Most large corporations have Debt counsellors,you might be surprised at what they can suggest......as an aside,the US child support system seems even more vicious than Australias...Why did we tolerate this sorry state of affairs coming into existence?
 

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TheLadiesMan said:
Help!

I'm the best man for my bro's wedding, and I need to put together a speech by Saturday! ...anyone have a good site, or have an idea on what makes a good speech? All tips, and suggestions are welcomed...

Next problem... I need a loan ($1500) to get myself out of the red, but my credit is crappy. Is there a place, besides my bank that will give a loan to a person like me, and allow me to pay it off month to month?

Problem #3....

I have a little over a month to prepare for a court date. I'm trying to get my child support reduced. I make $10hr, and rent is $580 a month, and my child support is $607.00 a month. Any suggestions and tips will help...

My thanks in advance.
Congratulations! But just don't be like this guy okay? :eek:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ga-ULeG09QY
 
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