NewMan
Master Don Juan
DO NOT MOVE IN WITH HER.
This chick sounds like a basket case.
This chick sounds like a basket case.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
HELP! Wanted to leave her...can't take the heat
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Buddy, when a chick "acts like a guy would in many ways" you got yourself trouble. This is yet another face of a AW (IMHO).
Its too bad you've invested your entire emotional stock here, cuz you had a great FB situation shaping up.
The noticeable age difference, the kid, all the external attention spell disaster if you don't pull back and see this for what it really is. She's playing you perfectly, getting her AW drama junkie fix along the way. Maybe even a 'roomate' to help pay the bills if she plays her cards right.
Since you're so invested in this, then think ahead, way ahead. Do you want to be LTR/married to some AW who is almost 10yrs older than you. She's has a kid and probably a f'd up relationship with the ex. She'll be hanging around other guys her entire life. One day you'll be 40, she'll probably look like she's 75 and you'll wonder where your life went. And most likely, in about 6 months, she'll just get bored and boot your arse from her place when you get too needy and start wanting/expecting real relationship stuff.
This is a classic case of a broken older AW chick using a naive younger guy. Many of us have been through this sh!t, it's a complete waste of our time.
PS. We've read your entire story at the bottom of the page!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She is an attention hor....that's what I suspected with your first post. Then you came up with the full story. She is playing little miss innocent and saying its YOUR problem but its really not. Your GUT is 100% correct. She is inviting male attention and doesn't mind at all that you are jealous.
All the signs are there that this is going to blow up in YOUR face. She is trouble. The DJs here came down hard on you but your gut was correct. You did get sucked in too quickly.
PAY ATTENTION to your gut on this one, and not the DJs who jumped the gun and put this all on you. You found and attention hor and they are sexy and have guys all over them because they INVITE it and encourage it. Not every HB is an attention hor. Some are not but you found one who is. Pay attention to your gut and get OUT now. Leave her for the AFCs. AFCs will be all over this woman. Do you really want to live with that?
Find SOMEONE ELSE. If I were you I would clean up your act. Your behavior will come back to bite you one day. Maybe this is your karma. She is a mess. And if you stay with her, it proves you are too. Clean up your act.
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All the signs are there that this is going to blow up in YOUR face. She is trouble. The DJs here came down hard on you but your gut was correct. You did get sucked in too quickly.
PAY ATTENTION to your gut on this one, and not the DJs who jumped the gun and put this all on you. You found and attention hor and they are sexy and have guys all over them because they INVITE it and encourage it. Not every HB is an attention hor. Some are not but you found one who is. Pay attention to your gut and get OUT now. Leave her for the AFCs. AFCs will be all over this woman. Do you really want to live with that?
Find SOMEONE ELSE. If I were you I would clean up your act. Your behavior will come back to bite you one day. Maybe this is your karma. She is a mess. And if you stay with her, it proves you are too. Clean up your act.
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WestCoaster
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Wow, 31 with 38 divorcee. I made that stupid mistake at 28 dating a 35-year old divorcee with kids. Thought I was being mature or something ... I should've been hitting it with 21 year olds, especially since I look a lot younger than I am.
Please take advantage of the window of opportunity to hit it with women in their 20's before they get bitter and angry in their 30's. Women are best in their 20's (I know, many play games, etc.). Women in their late 30's and 40's are totally into games and they don't have the looks and body of the 20's. I call them 40/20's in that they have the mentality of 20-year olds, but they're 40. The difference is 20/20's are just that, good bodies and all.
At 31 you definitely should be taking a different path, no doubt about it -- no matter how hot this woman is. Does she have a kid or kids?
If you live near a college, I highly suggest you go to the college bar this weekend and see what kind of women you can meet ... and I'm serious.
Please take advantage of the window of opportunity to hit it with women in their 20's before they get bitter and angry in their 30's. Women are best in their 20's (I know, many play games, etc.). Women in their late 30's and 40's are totally into games and they don't have the looks and body of the 20's. I call them 40/20's in that they have the mentality of 20-year olds, but they're 40. The difference is 20/20's are just that, good bodies and all.
At 31 you definitely should be taking a different path, no doubt about it -- no matter how hot this woman is. Does she have a kid or kids?
If you live near a college, I highly suggest you go to the college bar this weekend and see what kind of women you can meet ... and I'm serious.
Bronxtal112
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Sinistar sad but oh so true!Sinistar said:
One thing. Sex or make-out with her everyday.. Whatever.
Means you are seeing her everyday??
Telling her about your past relationship? Everything?? Where's your element of mystery??
Stop it. Meet her at most 2 times per week from now on IF you really want her as your FB. LTR is out of the question..
But why waste your life on her?
Means you are seeing her everyday??
Telling her about your past relationship? Everything?? Where's your element of mystery??
Stop it. Meet her at most 2 times per week from now on IF you really want her as your FB. LTR is out of the question..
But why waste your life on her?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
A lot of us guys have been here, I'm no exception. It's hard to see it for what it is when you are in the position:
1. You are her FB.
2. She has no intention of a future with you, hence the "shopping around".
3. You are trying to justify her blatent shopping around to "keep her".
4. She is damaged goods, but puts out.
5. Her friends envy her for having a boy toy. You are a walking dildo!
6. Every single second you spend with her is a second that you aren't meeting/fuxing a hot 22-26 year old without kids.
7. Later, after she finds something worth checking out... something will mysteriously "happen" that makes a big fuss and she'll escalate it to a break-up and blame you for being such a bad guy.
Only call this chick when you want to get laid. Meanwhile, get yourself out on the scene. The steady booty will work wonders for your testosterone levels and your confidence... TAKE ADVANTAGE!
Consider this:
Let's say this chick is a HB10...
-1 point for AW'ing/W'ing
-1 point for kids
-1 point for "old"
That makes her a 7. If she only started as a 7, she's actually a 4 now after DJ math. You can bet she knows she's a 7, or a 4, and will act like a godess towards you in an attempt to compensate: cook, sex, "I love you!".... She has you hypnotized! Snap out of it man!
1. You are her FB.
2. She has no intention of a future with you, hence the "shopping around".
3. You are trying to justify her blatent shopping around to "keep her".
4. She is damaged goods, but puts out.
5. Her friends envy her for having a boy toy. You are a walking dildo!
6. Every single second you spend with her is a second that you aren't meeting/fuxing a hot 22-26 year old without kids.
7. Later, after she finds something worth checking out... something will mysteriously "happen" that makes a big fuss and she'll escalate it to a break-up and blame you for being such a bad guy.
Only call this chick when you want to get laid. Meanwhile, get yourself out on the scene. The steady booty will work wonders for your testosterone levels and your confidence... TAKE ADVANTAGE!
Consider this:
Let's say this chick is a HB10...
-1 point for AW'ing/W'ing
-1 point for kids
-1 point for "old"
That makes her a 7. If she only started as a 7, she's actually a 4 now after DJ math. You can bet she knows she's a 7, or a 4, and will act like a godess towards you in an attempt to compensate: cook, sex, "I love you!".... She has you hypnotized! Snap out of it man!
You guys are scaring me.
She is offering a lot and we are compatible.
I have been seeing 20-yo and they aren't as satisfying for me at least.
She has turned down guys for me and has asked the other guy to move out this weekend.
How is that?
She is offering a lot and we are compatible.
I have been seeing 20-yo and they aren't as satisfying for me at least.
She has turned down guys for me and has asked the other guy to move out this weekend.
How is that?
Wow, I didn't expect to hear that. This changes everything. Just think how lucky and rare it was to meet a single 38yr mommy who just kicked the previous guy out. The fact she is turning other guys down to have you is reason enough to ask her to marry you right now so you can have her all to yourself. The best part, if you can marry her soon, just think all those other guys will stop meeting up with her and giving her that attention. And you can live in her house with her and help her raise her kid.
I'm sorry yul, I guess my last advice was totally wrong.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
She is acting just as she needs to in order to keep the booty around.yul said:
Satisfying? Like a Snickers? Well, at least the 20 y/o's aren't playing you.yul said:
She has turned down guys because she wasn't interested in them, not "for you".yul said:
She asked the other guy to move out this weekend because he's a freeloader and it's scaring off the other potential guys.
You are hypnotized, that's how.yul said:
Dude, I hate to be on the NEXT bandwagon, but a lot of us guys have been in this EXACT situation before. If you haven't, take the advice given here a little more seriously. Step back and look at your future and be honest with yourself. Turn off the computer and do some serious thinking.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Sounds like it's just all about sex. If she weren't so hot and y'all weren't having sex - would you still give 2 farts about her? If not, then it's simply puppy lust here. Expiration date in 2 months from now...
Just don't do anything stupid until then. Cya in 2 months!
Just don't do anything stupid until then. Cya in 2 months!
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Now we're getting somewhere! Thank you for finally being forthcoming YUL. Only now I'm going to tell you exactly what you were trying to avoid reading by witholding your full story when you started this thread; NEXT!
38 y.o. single mommie, now how the fukk did I know that? Hmmm, maybe it's because this type of sh!t is so commonplace and all of these stories start out the same way. So let's take stock of this whole situation now shall we?
You're involved with a 38 y.o. mother who's been married and fukking the same guy since she was 18, she's into Kink and she's reconnecting with her male 'fans' now that she finds herself this side of 40 and single. She calls you her soulmate (*hock, spit*) after knowing you for a month, and she wants you to move in with her.
WHAT THE FUKK ARE YOU THINKING!
38 y.o. single mommie, now how the fukk did I know that? Hmmm, maybe it's because this type of sh!t is so commonplace and all of these stories start out the same way. So let's take stock of this whole situation now shall we?
You're involved with a 38 y.o. mother who's been married and fukking the same guy since she was 18, she's into Kink and she's reconnecting with her male 'fans' now that she finds herself this side of 40 and single. She calls you her soulmate (*hock, spit*) after knowing you for a month, and she wants you to move in with her.
WHAT THE FUKK ARE YOU THINKING!
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
You just won a front row seat to my block list!
I really must say, you did an extremely good job! Trickling out information, keeping the readers thinking, interested, and participating. Top Notch trolling, indeed!
You are one of three things, but only one thing should happen:
1. You are completely stupid. Nothing on this site will help you because you are so dense; you should be banned.
2. You are a woman, posing to be a man for kicks, Yulanda; you should be banned.
3. You are a blatent troll; you should be banned.
Again, more trolling.
Oh well, not my problem. *block*
You stepped right into the "Troll-trapper 6000ex". Good luck with your problems.
I really must say, you did an extremely good job! Trickling out information, keeping the readers thinking, interested, and participating. Top Notch trolling, indeed!
You are one of three things, but only one thing should happen:
1. You are completely stupid. Nothing on this site will help you because you are so dense; you should be banned.
2. You are a woman, posing to be a man for kicks, Yulanda; you should be banned.
3. You are a blatent troll; you should be banned.
Women "get scared"yul said:
Again, these words would never come out of a man's mouth.yul said:
More woman-speak.yul said:
Wow, and this is just way too ironic... I know a guy who his kicking his ex gf out of his place and bragging about how he has this chick totally hung up on him even though he is steady macking on chicks and she knows it... weird coincidence.yul said:
Blatent trolling.yul said:
Troll technique & form.yul said:
Knives? Squirts? "wanks 3 times daily"? Why?yul said:
Again, more trolling.
Oh well, not my problem. *block*
You stepped right into the "Troll-trapper 6000ex". Good luck with your problems.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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