Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Last night, me and a friend were talking about the extreme negative connotations associated with the phrase "pick up". In essense, it basically implies a one-way exchange, like you somehow won something. Also, it get's subconsciously related to "pick up line" as well, inferring all sorts of cheezy styles in your game.

We were then trying to come up with some phrase, that means exactly the same thing mechanically, but implies the 2-way exhange that happens with 2 people reach date-stage.

A few of the ideas floating around were phrases like "connecting", or "linking", ie; "So, did you link in with anyone last night?"

This may seem overly pedantic, but when I'm around people who are basically just AFC's, saying "pick up" and "hook in" means different things to them. And it doesn't reflect the effort I've put in over the last 18 months.

Thanks for any input you guys might have.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Do you have nothing else to do but sit there and make accusations about people over the internet?

How small of you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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spaceman2001 said:
You have too much time on your hands bro.
Says the guy who's already posted three times on this thread....;)
 

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Oh wow. I've posted 3 times in a thread!!!! I GOTTA GET A LIFE.

NOW 4!!!

OHHH NOOO.

O RLY?
 

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Political Correctness comes to SS.com.

Right, lock this crap ASAP. For everyones sake.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's got nothing to do with political correctness. We were just thinking that "picking up" has way too many negative connotations, and that maybe we could come up with a new phrase that does justice to the game.

But fine, if no-one wants to be helpful, then lock it.
 

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I'd rather be out talking to woman than sitting here wasting time trying to think up new phrases for the dating game.

Lordy.
 

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Fine, you do that. I have a couple of hours free time to do some uni work in before my classes this afternoon, and I was taking a break for 10 minutes. Honestly, I remember this forum being a lot more friendly. Wtf happened?
 

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SynapsyS said:
It's got nothing to do with political correctness. We were just thinking that "picking up" has way too many negative connotations, and that maybe we could come up with a new phrase that does justice to the game.

But fine, if no-one wants to be helpful, then lock it.
Incorrect. The DEFINITION of political correctness is using alternative words to avoid negative connotations. This is exactly what you are doing here.

I can't believe I've posted in this thread twice...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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