"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Help Throwing Party

Dapper Swindler

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Hey, I've been out of the whole DJ mentality for the last few months because of work and girlfriend. I've mostly lost contact with my friends and am not very used to socializing with people so much anymore. I thought a good way to get back in the swing of things and reestabslih myself in social circles would be to throw a party.

I'm thinking of having it next Friday and having it Mardi Gras themed.

Keep these things in mind:

I'll be having it at my apartment which can't hold any more than 13 people so it will be relatively small.

The people I'll be inviting will be people I don't know very well or have lost contact with. So I don't want to plan anything too outrageous.

The people that will be coming are not big partiers. So again, nothing too outrageous. (This includes the whole bead thing. Not that I would be against it, but I'm not going to be the first to suggest it)

My "girlfriend" will be there. And while I don't intend on marrying her, I don't want to do anything to create problems with that.

The average age of everyone there will be about 21 or 22

I'm planning on just inviting about everyone who I have still listed on my phone. Most probably won't come, but since I can only hold about 13 people that should work out.

I'm planning on finding 2 or 3 mixed drink recipes in addition to supplying plenty of beer. Probably food too, any suggestions?

The only decent party game I can find is beer pong. What else might be a good game for a group of strangers?

Should I provide some decorations?

What else would you suggest to make this party a hit?
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Julian

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You forgot music, the most important thing next to girls and alcohol.
 

Dapper Swindler

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Oh right, good idea. I'm not very good with music. Do you have any suggestions?
 

Ice Cold

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1) Booze - lower inhibitions. Everybody drinks!

2) Contest/game - social pressure to dance, touch, kino... etc...

3) pictures - to touch/kino again...

4) sexual truth/dare

Only works with lots of single attractive people.
 
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