"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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help (this is simple)

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Serg897

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I'll make this very short and sweet for you guys.

I broke up with my girlfriend of 10 months about...3 weeks ago. SHE broke up with ME. It was painful and devastating, and we fought a few times later, but generally it seems like she doesnt want to get back together.

Fine. Ive been trying to move on. And yet she keeps talking to me online.

What the hell does she want? Should I tell her NOT to? (Part of doesnt want to do this, of course). Ignore her maybe?

She problably wants to be friends, but Im not sure if I want that.

Thoughts?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Morphiex

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hey heres an idea.....

WHY NOT JUST ASK HER ?????

for fu\cks sake , whats with these people....
theres no shame in being direct , i like being direct....
just grab your balls and ask her why she spends so much time online talking to you....
how the fu\ck can WE know why shes talking to you....
 
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I know what she wants. Im pretty sure she just wants to be friends - what Im asking is what I should do.

I could tell her not to talk to me for a while, but part of me has a hope that someday we might get back together (maybe when I come back from college in the summer - she still lives at home.)

Its just a difficult situation. I still have feelings for this girl.
 
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LongDrinkofWater

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But....she may not have feelings for you.

It isn't what you should do. Put a shift in your perspective for a second - what is it that you want? You stated you are hoping the two of you will get back together - so tell her so! So what if she broke up with you; she is still IMing you, so she is thinking about ya.

My advice is essentially the same as Morphiex - be direct, tell her what you are wanting (don't mince words - just spit it out!), and if there is ANY negativity in the reaction, then disappear out of her life. I mean vanish - like you died. Take her off of your IM, delete her phone number, erase her email address - make it very hard for YOU to contact her, because you'll want to. If there is any attraction in her mind, she will come back. Your sudden disappearance will just make her think about you more. If she comes back after you, don't be too eager.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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blinkwatt

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Perfect response by Coolguy. Higly recommend that route.
 
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