"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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help. this girl won't go away.

xectxny19x

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hey fellas. hope you can give some advice on my predicament here.

It was probably over the summer that I told this girl I needed some space. She's giving me more space than she used to, but she still keeps in touch even when I don't respond. She seems like a nice girl, & I feel kind of bad not at least giving her a little time. But from knowing this girl, I think giving her a "little" time will lead her to invade my space again. She's nice & cute, but I don't know. Well, she likes drama, too. Every time I gave her some time, she'd find something to argue with me about and get me mad... not mad really, but I just ignored her and she comes crawling back. Then it all repeats >> she misbehaves >> I ignore her afterwards >> she comes crawling back & sucking up. It took me a year to end that. :whistle:

I'm working on my own business right now & studying hard. I don't really have time for girls which of course is the time they decide to throw themselves on me. Some get the message and give up, but this girl has been after me since July or August. She don't stop. Should I just disappear or what.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Daddy The Pimp

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Just tell her seriously to Fvck off :box: .

Tell her that u aint got time for these things and u need to be alone .Tell that u aint ready for these games .

I dont know why are u askin such a question .

Cant u simply tell her that U DONT WANNA BE WITH HER ANYMORE in a serious tone ?

Im 100% sure she will get it and she will not bother you anymore .

If she doesnt get it just ignore her . Totally ignore her . Forget she exists .
After a few days/weeks she will get the message .
 

smackler

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Or do the opposite you normally do and start being more clingy/nice guy. But really exaggerate it. That could be fun.
 

gray_fox_9

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smackler said:
Or do the opposite you normally do and start being more clingy/nice guy. But really exaggerate it. That could be fun.
I agree. The fastest way to get rid of any woman is to start acting needy and clingy. Start calling her multiple times a day and hanging out with her all the time. Oh and get jealous over every guy she talks to. She'll dump you in no time...lol...:up:
 

DoctorLW

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gray_fox_9 said:
I agree. The fastest way to get rid of any woman is to start acting needy and clingy. Start calling her multiple times a day and hanging out with her all the time. Oh and get jealous over every guy she talks to. She'll dump you in no time...lol...:up:
Yeah after a month maybe.

It would be a nightmare for the poor guy until then.

Just tell her to leave you alone, or just keep ignoring her as you have been.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SunnyD

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No, ignoring won't work. She'll keep trying because it will drive her mad. You just have to tell her you are banging some new girl and she should eff off. I know I do.
 
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