"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This girl says she wants to be with me but she is going to do what she wants including club drink smoke and dance on niggas in da club. I tell her i dont mind if she clubs or drinks or smoke occasionally but I'm not gonna be disrespected by her dancing with niggas in ****. and shes like thats gonna be me....

Am I being to insecure?? We been together for 8-9 months. I'm just shocked by the face that she won't sacrifice anything for me anymore in order to be "her".......

What do you guys think...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This relationship is OVER.
We told you that in the last thread and in this new thread, we'll say it... AGAIN.

It's time for you to dump her. Look at the reality surrounding you. She said to you that "things weren't the same". This is her way of slowly breaking up with you. I say you do it now rather than wait til the very end in hopes of you two getting back together the way you used to be.


Look, I know she's your first g/f or whatever "first" she is, but it's over and it's time to move on.

She's already telling you that she's going to disrespect YOU and the relationship. She's going to dance (which could even mean fvck) other guys whether you like it or not.

So are you going to be the guy that stands for that or are you going to be the MAN that says: I'm not putting up with that, nor should I have to... this is OVER.

Do it before the situation escalates for her. Because believe me, she WILL go out and dance with other guys and other guys WILL try to bang her. Your woman is of LOW quality which is partially your fault because of details lined out for you in your last thread.

This relationship flat lined some time ago, it's time to prepare the tombstone for it and ready the burial.

The good news is... you get to go out and find new WOMEN (That's right, PLURAL of WOMAN).
 
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Damn your right. I know your right. and i felt the same way yesterday. but now i feel like im being too sensitive... but man your completly right. one thing will lead to another....
 
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This **** hard especially since she wants to be with me.

But I'm not putting up with that bull**** no more.... no more
 
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Pierce said:
This **** hard especially since she wants to be with me.

But I'm not putting up with that bull**** no more.... no more
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You're still young. On to the next one
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She sent me a text message saying she thought over it and agreed with me....... that she should sacrifice stuff... and that she wants to be with me..
 
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Of course she sent you a text agreeing with you. It's part of her plan to keep you. Just break it off NOW.
 
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Pierce said:
This girl says she wants to be with me but she is going to do what she wants including club drink smoke and dance on niggas in da club.
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Wow! And you took that? Sh!t, man. No woman has ever disrespected me like that. If I were you, I'd kick her to the curb and start spinning new plates.

Wow. Absolutely ridiculous. Guys take this!? :eek:
 
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I aint take dat ****. I told her str8 up that aint happening..... Then next day she apologize for everything and say she knew she was out of line and that she was frustrated at her family and she took it out on me. I told her str8 up dat she aint run nuthin even though she think she do. So today she apologized and told me dat she was sorry and blah blah blah and that she wasnt thinking she was just mad.
 
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smh so evrything is basically good between us. she said she did all dat **** cuz she was frustrated and she got a problem. so she a lil immature if u ask me. she even told me she never thought about leaving me she just wanted to push my buttons.....

but i cant seem to get this out of my head that she did that and its kinda makin me miserable thinkin about it :S. i still havent gotten over it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the problem is she aint do ****. its just the thought that she says sum stuff to piss me off when she gets frustrated at other **** is whats makin me miserable and pissin me off
 
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