TesuqueRed
Master Don Juan
What turns you on often gets shuttled off into a patterned response. Call it Pavlovian training, conditioning, whatever. NLP uses it for enhanced responses to certain stimuli. For example, you want to be socially engaging and feeling up so you practice before hand and "link" it to an obscure hand gesture or somethig which you use just before entering a party and approaching strangers...bingo! you're feeling up and outgoing.
You can do something similar with sex and conditioned responses. To a certain extent (ok, a great extent...) you can re-wire your response patterns (this doesn't mean that if you're gay you can become straight, btw...)
Some examples: guys who go a long time w/o a GF and wank-off a particular way will get to where that is the only way they can come.
Guys who are in a rut in a relationship--the same position, same pattern with the same girl every night--gets where this is the only way those two can do it--down to the same rhythm, pressure, etc. or else it doesn't work.
They've wired themselves this way. The best way to avoid these types of limitation is to go for variety. Expand your range of sensations. A condom throws you off? Use it w/o her with whatever you usually do to get off solo. Or let her get you stoked, break out the condom (and lose it, as you will at first) have her return to getting you stoked, bring out the condom again until you no longer wilt so easily.
This means you will have talk with her about it and play with it (you know what I mean...)
Many options for doing something about it..
You can do something similar with sex and conditioned responses. To a certain extent (ok, a great extent...) you can re-wire your response patterns (this doesn't mean that if you're gay you can become straight, btw...)
Some examples: guys who go a long time w/o a GF and wank-off a particular way will get to where that is the only way they can come.
Guys who are in a rut in a relationship--the same position, same pattern with the same girl every night--gets where this is the only way those two can do it--down to the same rhythm, pressure, etc. or else it doesn't work.
They've wired themselves this way. The best way to avoid these types of limitation is to go for variety. Expand your range of sensations. A condom throws you off? Use it w/o her with whatever you usually do to get off solo. Or let her get you stoked, break out the condom (and lose it, as you will at first) have her return to getting you stoked, bring out the condom again until you no longer wilt so easily.
This means you will have talk with her about it and play with it (you know what I mean...)
Many options for doing something about it..