"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Help on making a move and more

lalala

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Whats up! Im lalala (stupid username, I know lol), I live in Portugal and Im in the ninth grade.

First off, I would like to thank you guys for giving me even more motivation, specialy NorwegianDJ, wich journal really changed me. I took the routines and calculating everything path, and his journal made me see how I was wrong. Also I've discovered Awaken The Giant Within because of him. So... thank you;)

Now my question:

I've been flirting with a chick, normal stuff, and she seems interested. I know that I have to make a move and Im not a *****, I just want to know the right way to do things. Should I ask her phone number and then invite her for a date, should I
text her sometimes before do it, or should I just talk to her next time I see her?


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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NorwegianDJ

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I didn't intend to answer this post, but I feel like I really don't have a choice now.

You know best for your own situtation. From the brief info you've given, I'd say just talk to her, get the number, then perhaps text, then ask her out (however way you want, even in person). There's not much but details to it.
 

LearningSlowly

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Several things need to happen. You need to get her number (at least for date logistics, texting is overrated), get a date, and kiss her.

Like NDJ said, the rest is details. Everyone has different philosophies on how much to text, what the date should be, etc. Just do what feels right.
 

lalala

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Thank you for the replies!
You're right, I just need to make a move, and that's it. Maybe go see a movie or something. Too much planning almost always **** things up.
 
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