Help On Initiating!

[DonJuanJnr]

Hey guys,

I am 16 and quite popular and can get the girls interested in me however I do have a problem.

I am a virgin and have trouble initiating sex or anything of the sort would you please help me.

thanks

 

[surfdog]

"trouble initiating sex or anything of the sort"

what do you mean by that buddy? is the department working?

 

[Roy]

what do you mean by that buddy? is the department working?

I think he means that he is afraid of getting intimate... am i correct DonJuanJnr?

 

[Cashew]

Much like the three second rule applies for going up and talking to someone, I think it applies with intimacy and making a move too. If you are in the proper setting, and the idea of taking whatever your next step is pops into your head, you need to take action of doing that within the next three seconds. If you don't it will increase your fear of doing it and make you less likely to make your move as it is being built up too much within your mind.

When you are in a private situation and you are thinking of making that move, do it. If she rejects it, no big deal, but don't try again during that encounter. If she sticks around she'll let you, she just isn't ready yet (though if she is always turning you down, then forget it and next her).

 

[DonJuanJnr]

Thanks alot for your help so far.

that is exactly what i mean yes, would you recommend being direct in what you want to do?

And making it verbal, such as saying 'i want to f**k you ' ??

thanks again

 

[Five To One]

No you dont ask her if she wants to fvck or if she wants to kiss or if she wants to anything. You dont ask her anything.

You get to sex by doing something similar to this order

-kiss
-makingout
-1 minute into making out you get your hands to work
-start removing clothes(if you think she may give you last minute resistance its best to continue making out even though it will make this step akward to do at some points) Start with taking off her shirt and then yours and go from there.
-whatever foreplay you want
-sex


Dont start kissing a girl in a place where you cant escalate it to sex. You isolate her first in a sex location, basicly meaning any place that you can have sex in, and then go in for the kiss. Unless its a kiss goodbye or a first kiss.

I cant stress that last part enough. So many times I have started making out with a girl on my couch and get her turned on ready for sex. But then "Wait a sec, Five to One", my brian says, "your couch isnt a good sex location, your dad could come downstairs at any moment." So then I have to stop everything and try to get her in my bedroom. Sometimes it turns out alright but other times it has ruined the moment for her. No sex for me.