Help on getting a girl

[Harold69]

Hey,

Firstly I'd like to say that I'm new to this forum and not exactly sure if what I'm asking for is normal here but basically I just want advice on getting a girl.

So after going through years of being in love and being too shy to say anything, I finally got over the last girl I had a huge crush on.

Now it's been a couple of months and there's this new girl I'm into. She's about the same age as me (were both almost 18). Now she's recently had some love issues which was being in love with one of my best friends for like a year (that's a whole huge story) but to summarize it my friend doesn't like her back and she's been kind of depressed about it. Now she claims that she's over him but I'm not sure because she isn't the type that shows her emotions unless you're really close with her.

Ever since this summer where I became social and made a **** ton of friends, I feel like I've unlocked a lot of my potential and I am much more confident. I don't have a problem asking her out, but I know from my best friend's talk with her that she doesn't like me back. She's also super shy when it comes to relationship stuff.

It's pretty easy for me to make friends as I click with a lot of people, so even though we were casual friends, when I started liking her (about a month or 2 ago) I started talking to her more and we became closer. She considers me like a "brother" apparently but I don't get how that would happen so quick.

Anyway I feel like I can talk super naturally to anyone for hours but the fact that I like her makes me super self-aware and that makes me force conversations which lead to ****ty talks.

I wanted to ask how I could get over that and properly talk to her.

I also wanted to ask for tips on how to get out of the friend zone and get her to like me. I'm already giving my effort to getting fitter, and trying to look more attractive so I don't need help with that, but any other advice would be greatly appreciated.

She also has a really close friend that she always brings with her everywhere so it's like impossible to see her alone, any advice on that?

F.Y.I
I'm going to a party with her this friday.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

So after going through years of being in love and being too shy to say anything, I finally got over the last girl I had a huge crush on.

First bit of advice here buddy. You cannot be "in love" with someone you're not dating. Being "in love" with a woman you're not even dating or sleeping with with is the first step to being a girl's doormat that she treats like s***.

You're young and you probably think girls are too nice to treat you like that, but if you're not dating they will happily turn you into a little dog that chases after them helplessly.

Don't put women on a pedestal and become infatuated when you're not dating, you'll just end up hurt. Girls are just people, not goddesses...that's Rule One.

Ever since this summer where I became social and made a **** ton of friends, I feel like I've unlocked a lot of my potential and I am much more confident. I don't have a problem asking her out, but I know from my best friend's talk with her that she doesn't like me back. She's also super shy when it comes to relationship stuff.

If she's not interested, nothing you can do (aside from improving yourself, confidence, physique etc) will change this. That's Rule Two. You can't generate interest that doesn't exist.

If a girl's into you, you shouldn't even have to worry about these things, you should find it very easy to talk to her and date her.

By all means, walk up to this girl and talk to her in a friendly fashion. You may find your friend was wrong and that she likes you. BUT if she's not into you, asking her out is just going to get you a rejection.

You're best looking for another woman who IS interested in you than chasing one who isn't. All that accomplishes is turning you into a sap (see above paragraph about puppies chasing a girl's heels, getting nowhere).

 

[devilkingx2]

1. If you're like a brother to her, then think about it like this: what are your odds of getting your actual female relatives to sleep with you? Chances are the answer is "i can't imagine what i could do to get my sister/cousins/whatever to want to have sex with me" in which case, you see the predicament you're in.

2. Your best bet is to get drunk with her at the party, try to escalate, and blame the alcohol if it doesn't work out, hook up with her if it does.

3. Definitely dont suddenly start acting differently under normal circumstances, because that'll be weird and suspicious if she knows you well, save it for while you're drunk or high

 

[Spaz]

2. Your best bet is to get drunk with her at the party, try to escalate, and blame the alcohol if it doesn't work out, hook up with her if it does.

3. Definitely dont suddenly start acting differently under normal circumstances, because that'll be weird and suspicious if she knows you well, save it for while you're drunk or high

^^For the socially awkward

 

[wifehunter]

Try orbiting some hobbies instead of girls.

 

[MrWood]

I finally got over the last girl I had a huge crush on.

really... "had a "crush" on"

OP: you are a virgin, let me guess... a south asian country?

 

[Alvafe]

Hey,

Firstly I'd like to say that I'm new to this forum and not exactly sure if what I'm asking for is normal here but basically I just want advice on getting a girl.

So after going through years of being in love and being too shy to say anything, I finally got over the last girl I had a huge crush on.

Now it's been a couple of months and there's this new girl I'm into. She's about the same age as me (were both almost 18). Now she's recently had some love issues which was being in love with one of my best friends for like a year (that's a whole huge story) but to summarize it my friend doesn't like her back and she's been kind of depressed about it. Now she claims that she's over him but I'm not sure because she isn't the type that shows her emotions unless you're really close with her.

Ever since this summer where I became social and made a **** ton of friends, I feel like I've unlocked a lot of my potential and I am much more confident. I don't have a problem asking her out, but I know from my best friend's talk with her that she doesn't like me back. She's also super shy when it comes to relationship stuff.

It's pretty easy for me to make friends as I click with a lot of people, so even though we were casual friends, when I started liking her (about a month or 2 ago) I started talking to her more and we became closer. She considers me like a "brother" apparently but I don't get how that would happen so quick.

Anyway I feel like I can talk super naturally to anyone for hours but the fact that I like her makes me super self-aware and that makes me force conversations which lead to ****ty talks.

I wanted to ask how I could get over that and properly talk to her.

I also wanted to ask for tips on how to get out of the friend zone and get her to like me. I'm already giving my effort to getting fitter, and trying to look more attractive so I don't need help with that, but any other advice would be greatly appreciated.

She also has a really close friend that she always brings with her everywhere so it's like impossible to see her alone, any advice on that?

F.Y.I
I'm going to a party with her this friday.

ah too new, too many wishfull thinking, not a clue on how the world works.

in 2 days you will hardly change, best bet? play the drunk fun and try to make out with her, too bad chances are you will crash and burn, after friday try not to cry and give us a update, after that you can start to learn.

also would help to update too on where you live