"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Help on calling back drunk chics from the bar

Dr Octagon

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i just need some quick tips if anyone can help it would be great. i met this chic at the bar about 5 days ago we were both pretty drunk and didn't talk really at all just danced straight for a good hour. i asked for her number and got it. now i was planning on calling her today and wasn't sure if i should call her this afternoon and make plans for tonight or for tommorow because of the short notice. also i really don't know if this chic is girlfriend material or just good for some action on the side. i'm not really sure what to take her to do. i was thinking of asking her to go for a couple drinks to talk but i don't know. i just got home from worak and have to get some sleep and then i'll call her. i hope some of you guys can throw me some quick tips i would really appreciate it
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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jdr120

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1) Call her set up a date within the next week (if you're not too busy)

2) she says no, no biggie
she says YES, the great

3) Go out with her, and have fun, doesn't matter where you go.. it's you she's interested in...
 

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Honestly, I would avoid picking up women this way. As you said she didn't really speak to you at all, you just danced. And we all know that women will give out # like welfare checks, if that was indeed her real number...

So what you're really left with as far as interest level is the fact that you two were dancing. Well there's a song that comes to mind... the lyrics are

"Just because I happen to be dancing next to you, it doesn't mean I have to want to get with you"

But then I could be wrong, so just call her today, b4 too much time passes and it gets even more awkward than it is.
 

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Just treat it like you would any other number. If she feels awkward talking sober to a guy she danced with while drunk, then nothing's going to change that.

Lots of times girls will go out to clubs and dance and get freaky with a guy all night, but as soon as closing-time hits, they "turn back into a pumpkin", so to speak, and they won't even acknowledge your existence. I've had this happen to me...been grinding with a girl all night, kissing, sucking on her neck, tonguing her down, etc, but she REFUSED to give the number.

Another tip: if you two were all over each other in the club, to the point where you KNOW deep down that she wants to f**k you THAT NIGHT, but she gets pulled away because of her friends or whatever, call her THAT NIGHT, like after she gets home, kicks her shoes off, and starts thinking about you. If she's still horny, you may be able to hook up the same night. If you do this, though, only do it once, otherwise it's desperation at its finest. And DON'T call her the same night unless you KNOW she wants you and she wants you NOW.
 

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great advice,

remember, drinks only bring out the true person, I have seen drunk girls shoot down guys just like I have seen sober girls shoot down guys, it's all the same.

Just try to do something fun when you call
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Well, first of all you shouldn't have waited 5 fycking days to call. That's just lame, especially when they were tipsy.

Call her and just act super cool and fun. If you don't care that she was drunk, then she won't be worried about it when she doesn't remember you. You're going to imply that you two had a super great time, etc.

If you sound really cool and cute, she'll be intrigued and want to hook up. Otherwise she's just going to ignore you.
 
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