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[PUAIT]

Okay soo ... my issue....

I always get struck in the friend zone with the girls I'm trying to be with.


I don't know I have no real problem approaching a girl, and i'm usually able to keep the girls interest up and keep up a good conversation... but I always end up in that "friend zone"

I need help on how to change my approach to not get stuck here...

its pretty damn fusterating! -__-

 

[She_feelin_Me]

First off give me example of your approach.....

Do you flirt? Do sit there and listen to their bullshiit? Do you let them cry on your shoulder or listen about her sex life with other men?

 

[Asasione]

Do a fvcking search dude. Your not sexual enough, probably don't kino or SOI so the woman never sees you as a sexual threat and i'd bet you talk about safe topics never risking sexual topics only light banter, man up bro grow a pair. The point is not to stimulate interest in the conversation but to cultivate attraction for you.

 

[everywomanshero]

The answer is to stop looking for answers. There is no one reason a woman sleeps with a man, and you should stop trying to find the one reason all women will friendzone a guy because it doesn't exist. The best answer I can give you is the more comfortable you are with yourself, the more likely people in general are to be drawn toward you.. including women who want sex. If you assert yourself and look out for your own needs, chances are the problem will self-correct but you'll never know exactly why nor will you likely care too much. What I can tell you is if you assert some interpersonal power, take the bull by the horns, and start living life without fear & regret, you will have women drawn to you like flies to ****... and they will wanna ****. I don't assume being in the friendzone is your problem, I imagine your problem (most likely whatever intra & interpersonal issues you've refused to deal with) puts you in the friendzone.

 

[PUAIT]

Thanks all great tips...

Do a fvcking search dude. Your not sexual enough, probably don't kino or SOI so the woman never sees you as a sexual threat and i'd bet you talk about safe topics never risking sexual topics only light banter, man up bro grow a pair. The point is not to stimulate interest in the conversation but to cultivate attraction for you.

That's a great point thanks.

Anyway my main problem is I don't know how to get into those topics, guess i gotta work on that hah

 

[Igetit!]

You need to listen to She_feeling_Me.

He asked you to give an example of what it is you say to a girl when you try to gain her interest,then YOU SAID you don't know how to get onto sexual/romantic topics when talking to a girl.

Well,if you could SIMPLY give an example of how you talk to girls,we could examine it to see where you're going off track.

To be honest,I ALREADY KNOW the answer to your problem,but you'd learn better and retain the knowledge if we could get YOU to see if for YOURSELF. If after you give an example you still can't see it,then I'll just tell you straight out.

 

[Perry]

touch her more

 

[PUAIT]

Well alright... i'll try to give an example then...

Usually when I go out its me and my cousin and we try to approach as many females as possible. He usually opens I do sometimes to, just different openers i've heard or thought up myself. Throw some backhanded compliments here and there and just start talking about random topics that come up throughout a course of the conversation. If you want exacts, it usually ends up "ahhww he's so niice" <- that's probably my main problem. Or I get a "he's so sweet" which I hate hah, but anyway don't know exactly what you want me to explain but yeah... I do listen to there bull**** to much though, not really because I care because I don't, just in my head figures if she's talking to me it must be good... just never really works out.

 

[Igetit!]

Urrrrrgh,this is starting to get ridiculous.

Am I typing in english?


Maybe the caption is too small. I'll increase the size.

WHAT DO YOU SAY???

When you talk to a girl,what is it you say to her...Exactly?


If I call 911 and I need help,but when the operator asks me for my adress I say,"I don't know",or "I don't know exaclty what it is you want me to explain",she won't be able to help me.

I don't know what the deal is with all the posters seeking advice lately. They make a thread seeking guidance,but in order to help them get to where they need to go,first we need to find out where they currently are.

If you can't give an example of what it is you say to a girl in order to try and gain her interest,then well have to guess,and I don't like guessing.

It's like trying to hit an 90 mile per hour fast ball blind-folded. You may get lucky,but more than likely,you won't.


So if you want us to guess,fine we'll guess since you can't give any further information.

My best guess would be this: Stop acting and behaving like a friend to them.

If you're romantically interested,then show your interest. Stop beating around the bush and tap dancing. If you want to take her out,then that's what you should talk about.

It's just that simple.