Help needed! Ask or not? And why?

[anour]

Should you always ask for her number in the first interaction or can you ask it on the 2nd time.

Context:

i just had a conversation with this beauitful Hungarian girl she was with her friend, a little bit of teasing and all, they suddenly wanted to leave because of class. I said bye and all, then when they left they waved again at me.

I feel a little trashy because i didn’t ask for the number? Should i ask her next time i see her?

 

[anour]

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[Doctor Europeo]

1st interaction. Dont overthink. End the interaction with "You seem like a cool girl. Would you like to hang out sometime?". Keep it simple.

 

[Barrister]

Obviously, asking for her number as soon as it can be done in a natural way is the best course of action. But I don't know why you wouldn't ask next time you see her. What do you have to lose? If she gives some excuse like "I have a boyfriend" etc., who cares? Just move on and go after some other women.

Make the interaction where you ask an organic one of course. If you are at a university which is what I believe given your reference to class, make it stress free and ask her to accompany you somewhere on campus right after class to buy some time to talk a bit. Very easy to do and then you can grab the number at the end of that interaction to take her out somewhere later on a date.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

At a high point after rapport has been established. Doesn't have to be on a particular meeting #

 

[anour]

1st interaction. Dont overthink. End the interaction with "You seem like a cool girl. Would you like to hang out sometime?". Keep it simple.

Thanks hermano you a real one

 

[anour]

Obviously, asking for her number as soon as it can be done in a natural way is the best course of action. But I don't know why you wouldn't ask next time you see her. What do you have to lose? If she gives some excuse like "I have a boyfriend" etc., who cares? Just move on and go after some other women.

Make the interaction where you ask an organic one of course. If you are at a university which is what I believe given your reference to class, make it stress free and ask her to accompany you somewhere on campus right after class to buy some time to talk a bit. Very easy to do and then you can grab the number at the end of that interaction to take her out somewhere later on a date.

Really like the approach of organic stuff, i will do it, idgaf if she tells me that tbh

 

[anour]

At a high point after rapport has been established. Doesn't have to be on a particular meeting #

Shouldn’t you be efficient and try to close from first interaction?

 

[anour]

No rules bro. Take what’s yours. You’ll know when it’s yours.

Appreciate your comment bro. Stay safe king

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Shouldn’t you be efficient and try to close from first interaction?

No, you should take an efficient approach and close at the best opportunity. If it doesn't present itself at the first opportunity, chill out and pursue other girls.

If I were you I'd focus on the process - building rapport and recognizing windows of opportunity. Ideally you want to limit needless rejection when you're learning. People say to be stoic, etc but you need to build confidence and experience before you can achieve true stoicism with women.

 

[anour]

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No, you should take an efficient approach and close at the best opportunity. If it doesn't present itself at the first opportunity, chill out and pursue other girls.

I see i never thought of it that way tbh, usually i try to close ASAP and 99% of the time on first interaction, otherwise what’s the whole point of the interaction.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

otherwise what’s the whole point of the interaction.

To leave them wanting more.

 

[anour]

To leave them wanting more.

Mystery. I like that.