"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Help! Need to turn this around.

lugsy211

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In life there are winners and losers. Right now, I've got everything going for me, I'm a winner. I work out, I've got a rewarding job, great family who look up to me as the man of the house, a group of close friends and ambitions of becoming a doctor. But I just don't have the same enthusiasm for life anymore.

I've gotten stuck in a rut of oneitis this past month. I've met a girl who gives me plenty of IOI's. So I arranged to meet up with her but she cancelled last minute- twice. She has wasted a great opportunity, and worst of all showed disrespect by wasting my time. She did counter offer by inviting her and a mutual male friend over to my house, I declined.

Haven't made a connection with a female in a long time, going on six months since I last had some fun with a girl and I'm just wondering if you have any advice on how I can turn this around.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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In2theGame

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lugsy211 said:
In life there are winners and losers. Right now, I've got everything going for me, I'm a winner. I work out, I've got a rewarding job, great family who look up to me as the man of the house, a group of close friends and ambitions of becoming a doctor. But I just don't have the same enthusiasm for life anymore.

I've gotten stuck in a rut of oneitis this past month. I've met a girl who gives me plenty of IOI's. So I arranged to meet up with her but she cancelled last minute- twice. She has wasted a great opportunity, and worst of all showed disrespect by wasting my time. She did counter offer by inviting her and a mutual male friend over to my house, I declined.

Haven't made a connection with a female in a long time, going on six months since I last had some fun with a girl and I'm just wondering if you have any advice on how I can turn this around.
Pal your 19! you have all the time in the world to pick up plenty of women. Dont worry about this 1 girl. Keep it moving. Get out with some friends, if you have a good job then u must be doing ok financially, so get out and have fun, relax. the women will come.
 

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You claim U got it all YET you put so much value into being with a woman...............dude they are everywhere. Last minute resistance BUSTING tricks would have solved you dilema.

U opened well (I assume), your middle game was okay( I guess) it's your end game that needs some work........................so next her and meet some chicks.....yes its that easy.

Tone down the I got it all boasting and concentrate on being more of a playa, for the life of EVERY PUA WANNABE ON HERE...............STOP MAKING DATES.

Good move declining the I will come over but I am brining a guy friend..........U need to transition out of the friend mode and get into the with benefits mode.
 
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