"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Moneytalks

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I'm still after getting to know the girl at work!
So, she was on the breakfast shift (the one day I'm not! Typical eh? That would have been perfect as it would have just been me and her working...)

I went into work at 10 and she came in about 11. I bumped into her in the freezer but she looked like she wanted to stab someone so I smiled, said "Hi" and left. Ok, that might have been bad.

Later on she shouted me a few times so I could get her stuff- she outranks me in the kitchen, after all.

And whilst I was doing some other things she brought me a basket that I didn't need and said "I thought you'd need this". Then she struck up some conversation, "are you enjoying it here? I'm sally, you're Tim. Been hectic today eh?". Smiling and looking me in the eye all the time. Then she went off to help the sous chef. I wasn't very responsive to her because I was thinking about some interviews and stuff that I have coming up :down:

I'm not really sure how I should think about this. So far she's made 1 flirty, off the cuff joke and initiated conversation with me.

She looked like she wanted to stab me earlier in the day, and then came over to start conversation with me later on :crazy:

Should I just take it that it's a safe bet to go in for the kill?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AAAgent

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best thing u can do is be friendly, smile, joke.

never go out of your way to do these things, put your work and trying to be the best you can be before you put flirting with her on the list.

Women have a hard time resisting a man who know's what he wants and strives to get it. especially when it isn't them.
 

trd323

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Always assume that she likes you. And if you like her, ask her out. It is impossible to guess somebodys motivation on doing anything.
 

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It's work man. Just be friendly, maybe thats what she's doing.

If she wants to know you better she will tell you subtly. Things like "I like this restaurant. Wouldn't it be nice if we went there because we're friends and we would have such a good time... etc." She'll let you know somehow in an indirect way.

Oh and BTW. Don't sh*t where you eat. If you think its worth losing your job over for this, then go for it.

Best thing I can tell you is to chill out and just have a good time talking to her. If something happens, great. If not, then you had a good time either way. Just have fun with it and no expectations.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Moneytalks

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Alle_Gory said:
It's work man. Just be friendly, maybe thats what she's doing.
Fair point. I think you're probably right.



Oh and BTW. Don't sh*t where you eat. If you think its worth losing your job over for this, then go for it.
It's worth it. I hate it and I'm joining the Royal Navy anyway. Well...I'm in the middle of the application process.
 

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Moneytalks said:
It's worth it. I hate it and I'm joining the Royal Navy anyway. Well...I'm in the middle of the application process.
Then fvck sh*t up at work. Sounds to me like you can always get another job and its not that serious.

Don't come on strong, be chill. You want to build a connection with her and don't be afraid to be sexual around her. You're a man, she's a woman and she needs to feel that but don't go overboard. It is still at work.
 

Moneytalks

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Alle_Gory said:
Then fvck sh*t up at work. Sounds to me like you can always get another job and its not that serious.

Don't come on strong, be chill. You want to build a connection with her and don't be afraid to be sexual around her. You're a man, she's a woman and she needs to feel that but don't go overboard. It is still at work.
Cheers mate. I'll keep that in mind and start working on it ASAP. My mum said she looked "young"( we work in the same hotel), but she's old enough to drive. Which is a good indication that she's about 18/19 :rockon:
 
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