"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Help me with Mission: First Kiss

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If you haven't read my story in the HS board, essentially, I've been djing sarge style into week five and today was serious headway. For quite some time, I've been builing rapport with this Vietnamese girl in my class. She responded very well to kino from the beginning, and today things escalated to where she is comfortable with me putting my arm around her back (I do close talking and really playful kino) and the leading her with one hand on back thing I learned from Tiger. Things went really well and I really wanted to kiss her and I'm pretty sure things are the same way for her.

Here's my crux: I've never kissed a girl. I've been so AFC that I've never gotten so close. Now, I haven't asked this girl out and I haven't even asked for her phone number, but the kino is up there. How should I go about kissing her for the first time? Is there a DJ style as I wish to walk the way of the DJ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Buy her something. Anything. She will feel as if she owes you something. That something is a big juicy kiss.

Remember: Rule 7 from THE SCHOOL OF SPARKY....Human nature mandates that you reciprocate. Remember that. That is how I get most of my kisses.
 

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How old are you??

I recommend getting her phone number first then try and set something up outside of school. If you wanna keep kissing this girl after the first kiss I recommend not having it be at school. Not sure what you were planning. But leaning over in gym class and kissing her might not be the best idea. But hey if you get the balls to do that at least its something.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Snow Plowman

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Triangular Gaze

That is the most solid and natural way to kiss. When a girl wants to kiss you she looks at your eyes then lips, and then eyes again. If you do this then you will basically be conveying that you want to kiss her so slow down you're speaking, get close and kiss her.

I've done this at times where I didn't even kiss a girl and you could see her like expecting you to go for the kiss and really waiting there.
 

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Docs said:
You don't ask, you do. How old are you?

And Spark, what the hell???!
LMAO you misread. I have not asked her out. I was not going to ask for a kiss because that is wussy so you don't have to warn me on that. Just don't hate on me for something I didn't say. Anyway, today was meh: she was sick so she didn't want to talk. Reading other responses now.
 

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IF the girl is really feeling you then odds are she's already waiting for the kiss, I remember the last girl I went out with I didn't kiss her until the end of the day and she was like finally. All you gotta do is play it smooth and do it when YOU'RE ready. Don't rush it, just let it fall into place. You'll know when the time is right. If you feel weird when you're about to do it then it probably isn't the right time. Just be comfortable, enjoy urself, and let it fall into place.
 

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Hahaha yeah buy her something and she'll feel obligated.. what a dumb idea. Just be close to her, talking to her or something, and just look her in the eyes and then start closing in. Don't ask for one, don't feel like you shouldn't do it, just act like you want it and you're gonna take it. Your autopilot will kick in from there. Good luck!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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this is also called the "kiss test," depending on the source:
http://www.ehow.com/tips_2919_22.html

"Hair Trick - This is a neat way to tell if a girl will let you kiss her. When you are talking, find a reason to touch her hair. You could say, "Oh, I like your hair," or "It's so soft," etc. If she responds positively, touch it again and lean in for a kiss. It works for me, and it's sweet!"
 

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Bible_Belt said:
this is also called the "kiss test," depending on the source:
http://www.ehow.com/tips_2919_22.html

"Hair Trick - This is a neat way to tell if a girl will let you kiss her. When you are talking, find a reason to touch her hair. You could say, "Oh, I like your hair," or "It's so soft," etc. If she responds positively, touch it again and lean in for a kiss. It works for me, and it's sweet!"
This is pretty great stuff. I play with her hair all the time. She changed it today though (Damn... I liked her springy curly hair so much better cuz it was fun to play with).
 

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HERE! How to kiss: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MpH6rS6ucsU

This is what I should have seen before I messed up my first kiss, I went in like 3 times but she stopped me all 3 times, then later on she said she hated me for listning to her! But at that time I thought I had valid reason to not kissing her, even when my feelings made me wanting to go in for a kiss. But I know now that was bull****, I should had kissed her! I should had agreed with myself and not fight against myself!
 
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