Help me wingman for my deaf coworker

[IronDJ]

I have a coworker who's 24 and deaf. He's a slender guy who has Indian ancestry. He probably wouldn't have trouble normally finding girls, but with the huge communication barrier of him being deaf combined with girls wanting to do nothing but talk, he's never really had a dating relationship. When I say never really had a dating relationship, I mean that he's never consistently dated a girl or slept with one.

I've learned how to sign at a level that I can converse with him, and doing so has helped him learn how to read lips some. I've told him that learning this is going to be critical.

So he wants me to take him out sometime when I go out. What I'm struggling with is finding out how to cold approach a girl and not scare her off when she finds out he's deaf.

One time some coworkers, including this guy that we'll call "Z", went to out to grab dinner, and I managed to get him to flirt with the waitress some. She noticed me signing to him, and when we were ordering drinks, she asked me how to ask for his ID, so I had Z teach her how. Later I asked if she wanted to learn how to sign her name and had Z teach her that.

This seemed to work, and Z was actually communicating with a girl. I wonder if a method like this would work for meeting girls in general for him. One issue that I worry about is that I'll end up inadvertently ****blocking him, as the girl would be more inclined to talk to me, because it's easier.

I understand that this is a challenge, but I've got to help this guy out. What say you, DJ's?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Everyone's deaf in a club with loud music. Also, if a girl didn't speak English well, she would tend to share a lot of non-verbal communication cues with him.

All the deaf people I've known have been cliquish, to the point of being rude to people outside their group. It's a self-protective mechanism, because they are scared to try to interact with hearing people like your friend is doing. Good for him that he is trying.

 

[Gray The Prince]

The dynamics between you and your coworker have some serious potential. If this is used correctly, this could be a deadly combo when it comes to slaying poon.

 

[Ronaldo7]

Introduce him to a mute girl. Normal-working people ain't got time for the mute that wanted to talk but couldn't. A mute girl has his same circumstances. 1 + 1 = 2

 

[Sik]

I agree with Gray The Prince, this has some serious potential.

Having something different and interesting to bring up always helps with cold approaches. Just recently I went and had drinks with a cousin of mine; he was in a bad car accident and basically came back from the dead. He has a gnarly scar on his scalp so whenever I mention it, girls will ask what happened and he'll launch into a pretty thrilling story.

From there it's a whole lot easier to buy them drinks, talk about how awesome we are and then go back to my place. Doesn't always work, but it's better than "Hello."

I suggest really impressing upon your deaf friend to learn to read lips. His deafness, while an obstacle, also makes him unique. It's not often a girl meets a young, slim deaf guy who can teach her how to use sign language. If he's charming and smiles a lot, I think he can pull broads with no problem. Also tell him to hit the gym and read this site.

 

[IronDJ]

I agree with Gray The Prince, this has some serious potential.

Having something different and interesting to bring up always helps with cold approaches. Just recently I went and had drinks with a cousin of mine; he was in a bad car accident and basically came back from the dead. He has a gnarly scar on his scalp so whenever I mention it, girls will ask what happened and he'll launch into a pretty thrilling story.

From there it's a whole lot easier to buy them drinks, talk about how awesome we are and then go back to my place. Doesn't always work, but it's better than "Hello."

I suggest really impressing upon your deaf friend to learn to read lips. His deafness, while an obstacle, also makes him unique. It's not often a girl meets a young, slim deaf guy who can teach her how to use sign language. If he's charming and smiles a lot, I think he can pull broads with no problem. Also tell him to hit the gym and read this site.

I agree that the potential is there. I think if we can find a pair or larger group of girls, then he brings something that really makes him (and thusly me) stand out.

What I need is to make sure my method listed in my OP is a solid way of getting him going. I'm willing to listen to other ideas as well.