I've never been successful with girls, and haven't had a real girlfriend ever really. I'm insecure about my weight for some reason even though i'm normal size. I use to be fat when i was a kid up until 2 years ago. I'm 6'2 180 lbs, but i still can't get over my insecurities. I've had older girls hit on me, and i get the number close, but they just end up seeing me as a friend. Girls tend to think i'm "immature" because of my jokes. It's not like i'm telling the girls my jokes. I'm telling my friends them but the girls eavesdrop on the convo. I'm a really funny guy. My family, friends, and some girls think so, but I'm afraid to take it too far. The ones that do think i'm funny end up becoming good friends with me, but that's the problem. I always end up in the friend zone and don't know why. I don't act like an AFC, and i don't let my insecurities show. Help me understand why I'm unsuccessful. BTW i'm a softmore
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Help me understand why I'm unsuccessful
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Sounds like your the class clown, but not in a good way- in an unassuming, goofy way. You have to take the bull by the horns and turn your life into what you want it to be. You want to be less unasuming, less goofy? You start focusing on other character traits of yours that women find attractive like being assertive and confident.
You are not acting sexual around them.Jokerlsk said:
The only advice you will ever need when it comes to women is:
Treat a lady like a wh0re and a wh0re like a lady.
Be the touchy guy that makes dirty sexual jokes. The key is to have them constantly thinking about having sex with you. THEN you have to back it up with action. The nicer you are to them the more b!tchy they will react to you and they´ll put you in the friend zone.
BEING SEXUAL IS THE ONLY THING YOU NEED TO GET WOMEN.
Women don´t care about how funny you are.
They don´t care about your hobbies or how smart you are.
Here are the only things you need to know when it comes to getting women:
Learn how to lead without force. (Dominance)
Look as masculine as possible. Look like a guy that is good in bed.
Learn how to act sexual with them.
Here, I just saved you one year of trial and error.
You may have hit the nail on the head. But how do i shake this class clown view???? I make good grades, I am assertive, but lack confidence unless i have to use it. I'm not goofy though. I'm just funny and make witty comments. IDK, me and my friends are also called "sexist" because i made one joke about women's right when i was doing this comedy thing. I mean wtf???? Now everyone has nicknamed me that.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ChrizZ pretty much nailed it even though I don't agree with him that this is all you need and that girls don't care about your humor. The key's are not being desperate, focussing on the fun and being sexual. You just want the skills and not necessarily the girls? Great, that's number one. Keep being funny, don't make yourself have less fun just to get girls, this is ridiculous. I bet they do like your jokes, the reason they think you are immature is because you are not being sexual.
Your solution could be dressing better, talking in a deeper voice etc etc but the easiest and most effective one is definitely kino.
Your solution could be dressing better, talking in a deeper voice etc etc but the easiest and most effective one is definitely kino.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
haha good advice chrizz, i'm pulling this dirty jokes stuff with my gf right now. Her reactions are good, giggling and hitting me playfully "your so diiirty" 
too bad shes a christian girl (believes in chastity til marriage), so it'll be hard to break her, any advice?
oh yea yo, to get over your insecurities, I'd say the best confidence booster would be hitting up the gym. Trust me and many others on that one.
too bad shes a christian girl (believes in chastity til marriage), so it'll be hard to break her, any advice?
oh yea yo, to get over your insecurities, I'd say the best confidence booster would be hitting up the gym. Trust me and many others on that one.
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get some velcro gloves and get into the sheep thing... they are nice and soft.. forget woman,... they stink like ass anyways.
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Dude, you're 16. It's common and assumed that you will be immature especially in the eyes of older women. Have you tried toning down the jokes when you're out?
You're 16? It's pretty tough at that age unless you happen to be a star athlete or something. I'd say there's nothing wrong with you because despite what most guys will tell you, most guys that are your age or close to it aren't getting laid and if they are, it's probably by ACCIDENT and not as much as they say. The fact is most young guys get shafted in the dating game, but, that will all change once you get to college. If you want to improve your prospects, the best thing to do is improve yourself first and foremost. Get a job, take up different hobbies like learning an instrument, travel, do things that make you generally more interesting as a person. Do talk to girls, but don't attach much importance to it, especially at your age. Remember, you are the most important person and no one else is looking out for you. Work on yourself first and once you're confident in yourself, it will be so ****ing easy man.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I can tell from your post that you aren't sexual, ChrizZ pretty much nailed it. Although you have to be attractive not just sexual. Being fun and funny is attractive so you have that covered, you just need more sexuality. Use your sense of humour to joke about sex subtly, use sexual innuendo.
Go here: http://www.flawlessnaturalvideoblog.com/
Scroll down and watch the video about 'woo' and 'intent'. You need more intent.
Go here: http://www.flawlessnaturalvideoblog.com/
Scroll down and watch the video about 'woo' and 'intent'. You need more intent.
Thanks for the advice guys. Being sexual kinda comes to me as a challenge though. I like to use my jokes and stuff as a barrier so i don't have to be sexual, but i guess being funny isn't enough. Thanks for the link sinjester.
You are young. Don't worry about the girls yet. Improve yourself whether it's getting better with your jokes, building your confidence, taking up an interesting hobby, or getting in shape. Just stick with this site for a couple of years and by the time you graduate, you'll have all kinds of girls begging for your c0ck.Jokerlsk said:
6'2 180 lbs? You should be set for life with the women.Jokerlsk said:
It appears as though you use humor as a defensive mechanism, perhaps to avoid intimacy or a real relationship with a woman. You are afraid that if you want to get intimate with woman, your ego won't be able to handle the rejection if she says "no", thus you avoid it at all costs and play the safe route, being "their friend." It's good you are concerned about it enough to want to make a difference.
It's good to make them laugh, but not at the cost of offending them.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.