Shivastorm_88
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Help me understand what happened to my girlfriend (related to bondage/rough sex)
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
El Payaso
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How long have y'all been dating? She seems to be projecting her insecurity onto you. I don't want to jump to the conclusion of personality disorder but there are chances. Enjoy the sex but never, ever get attached and don't fall for her charms. F*ck her silly but never think she's your one and only. That's how they trap you.
Shivastorm_88
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My fault for not mentioning, but we've been exclusive for five months now. She has also told me she loves me recently, twice.El Payaso said:
I'm no expert in bondange or anything in fact I've never really tied a girl up or anything but since I seem to know more than you I'll explain a few things. Women like to be messed up after freaky crazy abusive sex so good for you reducing her to tears or shivering or what ever. Also there's this thing called aftercare that is pretty much a major part of the experience and it involves things like tending to the girls wounds or at least making sure things are available to her like water, bandages, disinfectant... BUT the major part of after care the part girls look forward too the most my guess would be is that moment after feeling all crazy and messed up from the spanking and rough sex where they can be vulnerable and you comfort them or what ever. So you did a good job. Don't get oneitus for this girl and don't put any stock in the I love you's. Enjoy this while it lasts but be spinning other plates, that doesn't necessarily mean cheat but understand you need options ready.