Help me turn a page and start a new chapter.

[Throw_away787]

Hello. I made my first post a couple of days ago. Unfortunately, that experience has been a major eye opener for me. It's up to me what I do going forward.

My story. I am 26 years old. I have had two serious relationships (last one was ~3 years ago). My entire life, women have always been in a position where they can choose me. I have never really taken a step back to realize my own value (decent looking, very educated, high powered career).

The reason I am turning to this forum is so I can change my outlook on things. I keep finding myself in positions where casual dating never turns into anything more (refer to my first post). My goal is to learn to skills necessary to find a long term relationship and find a partner of high value. I have no interest in meeting several different women and just fooling around.

I am already taking steps toward self improvement (reading two books a month, socializing a lot more, working out, improving fashion sense etc).

Regarding this forum, what else should I be doing? Where can I get started? I am just sick and tired of not being in the drivers seat.

 

[AttackFormation]

Answer in quote.

Hello. I made my first post a couple of days ago. Unfortunately, You think it's unfortunate that your life is gonna change? that experience has been a major eye opener for me. It's up to me what I do going forward.

My story. I am 26 years old. I have had two serious relationships (last one was ~3 years ago) You haven't had sh!t. Relationships cannot be serious or not serious, they are for having kids. If you didn't have any, it was a plate. My entire life, women have always been in a position where they can choose me. I have never really taken a step back to realize my own value (decent looking, very educated, high powered career). The last two are provider values in of themselves, you should be glad you're finding game now

The reason I am turning to this forum is so I can change my outlook on things Boy do you need to, and not in the way you think. I keep finding myself in positions where casual dating never turns into anything more (refer to my first post) The fact that you think you can turn any person you casually date into an LTR is a self-evident show of major weakness and codependency, which the women will pick up on. My goal is to learn to skills necessary to find a long term relationship and find a partner of high value You won't until you stop being weak. I have no interest in meeting several different women and just fooling around. But women in their 20s do, and the reason you say so now is because you are speaking from the blue pill mentality that your mind is currently in, you don't actually know

I am already taking steps toward self improvement (reading two books a month, socializing a lot more, working out, improving fashion sense etc). Good

Regarding this forum, what else should I be doing? Stop being weak and co-dependent. Make the transition from blue pill to red pill, then you'll find out what you really want Where can I get started? Show us examples of how you talk and behave with women so we can give you practical advice and if you're not talking with any then start doing so I am just sick and tired of not being in the drivers seat. No kidding, so stop telling yourself you "want" this or don't want that and absorb what's on this forum. Your mind isn't mature enough to know what it wants yet despite you being 26, but most men are blue pill so it's no wonder, just be glad you're here now

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Whatever you're looking for from women (or in your case, one woman), you have to let go of the thirst.

Essentially, the best way to start attracting people or anything else into your life is to believe that you already are. And to truly believe it. Change 'I want', in to 'I can have'. Internal monologue is everything.

Know your own worth forever more, don't give a single fck about what other people think, even if and when you have a wife of 20years; if she's being unreasonable by your own standards, stand your ground.

Understand if you invest everything in one individual, she can easily turn away from you at any point.

If you get married, get a pre-nup.

If it's long term monogamy you want, look for a nice, boring girl.

Realise that weather you are dating 10 women or one, in the early days, the game is the same, unless you are dating well below your own value.

Immediately, I'd say read as much as you can around the subject, even about dating multiple women. Though it's not what your ultimate aim is, you will learn about the nature of modern men, women and relationships.

Anything we can tell you here has already been typed a hundred thousand times over. It's up to each of us to interpret and apply to our own individual situations. You're basically saying 'help me find a girlfriend'. It's about time to start helping yourself, sausage, in every sense.

 

[El Payaso]

What attack formation said is true. Especially the part about having a very good career and bring educated. It only puts you in the role of provider.

 

[Alvafe]

just quick one, if you wnat to find a woman you will need to meet several of then and fool around with then before you can find one worthy to keep around.

read the DJ bible, put yourself out there, be willing to take risks and to learn from then

 

[Throw_away787]

What are your guys' thoughts on dating applications like Tinder? Do you see them has a handicap/easy way out for men?

 

[Shift]

What are your guys' thoughts on dating applications like Tinder? Do you see them has a handicap/easy way out for men?

Once you weed out the bots and girls just on there for the validation, even with an optimized profile, you're still dealing with at least twice as many flakes.

Can be useful when you otherwise wouldn't be out meeting women in real life, i.e. work breaks or when you're taking a dump.

Shouldn't be your primary avenue for meeting women though

 

[Throw_away787]

Thanks Amante. That is why I am here asking for help. I will keep an open mind and continue to read through this website/forum.