"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Help me sleep with my roommate

buffalobill

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Hey DJs. So here's the deal:

I moved into a townhouse style dorm here at university in September. I was randomly assigned to live with 2 girls and 1 other guy(never met any of them before). One of the girls has got a smoking hot body, and I'm beginning to think it would be pretty cool if we could start fooling around.

We're very good friends now and hang out a lot. We're both single. I don't want a relationship with her, I just want to try to get in as an F-buddy. I'll be living with her until next April.

I'm interested to try this as an experiment more than anything. What should I do?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Warrior74

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Don't sleep with your roommate you freaking idiot. Stop being lazy, go meet some other women.
 

Deadly_Ripped

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Yeah man, I second that!

DON'T DO IT. I've never met someone for whom it ended well, myself included.
 

JCballin88

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I think if you are really serious about this, you probably just need to get drunk with her or something. If you guys have a little party or whatever and things happen, you can MAYBE get away as writing it off as drunken fun and then move on. But like others have said, it's not a good idea.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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buffalobill

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hahahaha, this is pretty much what I was expecting you all to say... Anyone have any other input?
 

kody_starr

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What are you looking for? A handbook or manual on sleeping with roommates in particular? Use whatever interaction or seduction skills you already have.
 

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buffalobill said:
We're very good friends now and hang out a lot.
That line right there shows you have no chance. She's already your friend. Find someone else.
 

Unbridled_Phoenix

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Your only recourse is to start bringing over other hot chicks.

The Friendzone is an ancient maze of lost afc souls, doomed to walk the earth chumping over a girl who wants to bake cookies.

The FZ is seemingly inescapable, but there is hope. Seeing you get chicks as hot or hotter than her is the surest bet you have to inspire her to get in your bed in the middle of the night.
 

horaholic

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Get drunk with her at home a lot. I've had drunk female roomates give me signals. Of course, I was never stupid enough to go for it, though.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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pua1989

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if you ahve to ask this question, then you already can't...unless like phoenix said you start bringing over hot girls.

what you SHOULD have done was from the moment you met her started being sexual with her. just the tone of your voice and the things you say and do (not being creepy with her or anything); basically getting her to think of you in that light all the time. something as stupid as everytime you see her "sup babe?" or "what up lil mama..?" might sound stupid but with the right tone and not coming off as a weirdo and shell be smiling at least. next step would be to havea few drinks with her when no one else is around and bam, make your move

also, this isnt for all people but i like to be a little physical with girls. not beating them or anything but playful slaps on inner thigh when i wanna talk to them or something. or kinda getting close and moving them against the wall saying "what you doin tonight...?" (as i write this it sounds a little bad but if done right with the right frame you are just being playful). i guess im just a pretty aggressive guy which i find girls tend to like
 

kody_starr

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OP: as you can tell, no one responding has pulled off what you are trying to attempt. Just ignore these responses and do what you feel is right.
 

jdbman11

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ya just get drunk with her so she's really not even seduced and it's really awkward in the morning... ?? great advice??

Like others have said, it's probably not smart to hook up with your roomie. It could end up very unhealthy and lead to alot of drama.

You've seen real world
 

Warrior74

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kody_starr said:
OP: as you can tell, no one responding has pulled off what you are trying to attempt. Just ignore these responses and do what you feel is right.

If he thought it was right he would have went for it already. If he thought it was right he wouldn't be asking. He knows deep down that its a mugs game. He's just going for the easiest option (in his mind). She's right there and they get along, why even try with someone new?

All of the people posting here aren't just posting a knee jerk reaction, some of us are speaking from experience and the experiences we have seen from others.

For example. I had a good friend of mine who kept complaining about his roommates never wanting to pay rent. Why? He kept sleeping with them. Then when they got in relationship mode they decided they didn't have to pay rent anymore. He did this about 4 times before he learned his lesson.

I had another buddy who did the whole roommate to girlfriend thing, and then of course it went south and he's stuck in a lease with her. She decides to start dating and he gets in a fight with the guy and the cops get called. Now he's got a record.

Another friend of mine rented out a room in his house because he couldn't make the mortgage. He started hitting on his new roommate, weirded her out and she moved on him. He had to take two jobs just to cover his mortgage.

I had a cute female roommate for about 6 months and the thought crossed my mind because we got on so well, but I stayed the course and didn't go for it. We've been friends ever since and she's introduced me to some nice girls.

But it's up to the OP. Some people have to learn for themselves the hard way. Some can just learn from other people's experiences. Good luck to the both of you.
 
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