farlenrejorano
Don Juan
Hello fellas!
I need some advice...My gf of 1.5 years has just suggested that we cut off contact temporarily (about 1 week) because she doesn't feels the urge of being with or talking to me as she felt on the start and wants to rekindle our relationship. We had a open talk about this subject in which I told her that if she feels like it, we can break up (And I really emphasized it.). She said no, she told me that she loves me and just wants to try to rescue things like they were in the past, because she thinks our relationship has became cold. So I agreed to this deal and now it's day 2.
I will try to put only vital info here, as I don't want the reading of this post to be tedious. But it's important to explain well my situation:
- It's the first time we experience a bad moment together. We have always been a perfect couple. This golden phase lasted until August, when our routines changed.
- Last year we used to see each other almost everyday coz we studied at the same school. Nowadays it's not possible anymore coz we are in different colleges, and our schedules don't match. Neither of us can drive, so we don't have the option of going out late in the night during the week. We usually see each other on weekends.
- By the same reason, sex became difficult. The lack of driving possibilities prevents us from going to motels. What we used to do was to go to her home while her mother was at work. But in the last 4 months, her schedule was incompatible with mine so we had only friday morning to meet for sex in her home (and only if it was possible.).
I admit that I failed here because during this time I was more desperate for sex than her, so it may have caused her IL to drop. Other negative aspects include that I always have to ask or be told if I can come to her place, so sex isn't a surprise. She also says that she doesn't feel 100% confortable in her home and that turns her off a little. BTW, I'm taking my driver license next month, so at least we're gonna have a solution for this problem soon.
- We use to say things like "we're gonna marry", "we're gonna stay together forever" like love declarations. BTW, everytime we talk seriously about this subject, we emphasize that these are just jokes, and obviously we aren't sure of being together forever, as we have only 19 years.
- This year I could have moved to another city to study there, instead of here (my home city). But I stayed. She knows that the closeness with my family and friends played a big role in this decision, but that I also wanted to be with her. It's important to say that this decision happened in January, and she didn't start losing IL until September.
- She knows that I love her and that I would be very sad if we had to broke up. I have already told her this, but I also say a lot that I don't want to be with her if she doesn't want to be with me anymore. She looks like a very honest person when it comes about talking about the relationship.
- Another thing I think is messing up things is that we have been spending a lot of time in the phone. As we don't see each other during the week, we used to spend like 1h/day talking in the phone. I think this may have caused her IL to drop, so as her urge in seeing me. She told me in our last talk, that we're behaving more like friends than bf-gf. Despite I do my best to physically see her on weekends, she really acts like she doesn't need to see me lately, coz she doesn't put many efforts on going out with me. Including, this was one of her reasons to ask for a no-contact week. She says that she wants to feel that spark again.
- I have strong evidence that she's not seeing any other man behind my back.
I think these are the more important things I have to tell. Please, give me some advice on how to save my LTR. I know some people will say "next", but I wouldn't like to surrender yet. I have had a great time with this girl, and I want to enjoy her company a little more. She looks disposed to try everything to save our relationship too, but I know that if it doesn't happens, she's gonna leave. Please, give me advice! Help me!
I need some advice...My gf of 1.5 years has just suggested that we cut off contact temporarily (about 1 week) because she doesn't feels the urge of being with or talking to me as she felt on the start and wants to rekindle our relationship. We had a open talk about this subject in which I told her that if she feels like it, we can break up (And I really emphasized it.). She said no, she told me that she loves me and just wants to try to rescue things like they were in the past, because she thinks our relationship has became cold. So I agreed to this deal and now it's day 2.
I will try to put only vital info here, as I don't want the reading of this post to be tedious. But it's important to explain well my situation:
- It's the first time we experience a bad moment together. We have always been a perfect couple. This golden phase lasted until August, when our routines changed.
- Last year we used to see each other almost everyday coz we studied at the same school. Nowadays it's not possible anymore coz we are in different colleges, and our schedules don't match. Neither of us can drive, so we don't have the option of going out late in the night during the week. We usually see each other on weekends.
- By the same reason, sex became difficult. The lack of driving possibilities prevents us from going to motels. What we used to do was to go to her home while her mother was at work. But in the last 4 months, her schedule was incompatible with mine so we had only friday morning to meet for sex in her home (and only if it was possible.).
I admit that I failed here because during this time I was more desperate for sex than her, so it may have caused her IL to drop. Other negative aspects include that I always have to ask or be told if I can come to her place, so sex isn't a surprise. She also says that she doesn't feel 100% confortable in her home and that turns her off a little. BTW, I'm taking my driver license next month, so at least we're gonna have a solution for this problem soon.
- We use to say things like "we're gonna marry", "we're gonna stay together forever" like love declarations. BTW, everytime we talk seriously about this subject, we emphasize that these are just jokes, and obviously we aren't sure of being together forever, as we have only 19 years.
- This year I could have moved to another city to study there, instead of here (my home city). But I stayed. She knows that the closeness with my family and friends played a big role in this decision, but that I also wanted to be with her. It's important to say that this decision happened in January, and she didn't start losing IL until September.
- She knows that I love her and that I would be very sad if we had to broke up. I have already told her this, but I also say a lot that I don't want to be with her if she doesn't want to be with me anymore. She looks like a very honest person when it comes about talking about the relationship.
- Another thing I think is messing up things is that we have been spending a lot of time in the phone. As we don't see each other during the week, we used to spend like 1h/day talking in the phone. I think this may have caused her IL to drop, so as her urge in seeing me. She told me in our last talk, that we're behaving more like friends than bf-gf. Despite I do my best to physically see her on weekends, she really acts like she doesn't need to see me lately, coz she doesn't put many efforts on going out with me. Including, this was one of her reasons to ask for a no-contact week. She says that she wants to feel that spark again.
- I have strong evidence that she's not seeing any other man behind my back.
I think these are the more important things I have to tell. Please, give me some advice on how to save my LTR. I know some people will say "next", but I wouldn't like to surrender yet. I have had a great time with this girl, and I want to enjoy her company a little more. She looks disposed to try everything to save our relationship too, but I know that if it doesn't happens, she's gonna leave. Please, give me advice! Help me!