Good points on the tests, Wht.
Grade, indeed, you approach it systematically like this:
Test 1: She's receptive to you when you approach (positive body language, laughs at your jokes, even if they're lame, listens to you attentively, answers your questions enthousastically). If she fails this test, NEXT immediately. Don't ask the phone number or e-mailaddress, she's not interested in you.
Test 2: She gives you her phone number or e-mailaddress when you
tell her to (note that you can get a girl to pass test 2 without her really passing test 1). If she fails this test, NEXT immediately. Say goodbye politely and be gone. She liked the talk and the attention, but it ends there.
Test 3: She answers your phone call or e-mail and engages in some chatter with you over either medium. If she's doesn't answer the phone the first time, she does pick up when you call a second time a day or two days later at a different time. If she fails this test, NEXT immediately. She gave you the number for a variety of reasons, the prime one being not interested in you. Take no crap from anyone and don't be desperate and clueless.
Test 4: She accepts your date offer. If she can't make it on the day you suggest, she makes you a counteroffer. If she fails this test, NEXT immediately. Don't waste your time being friends if she won't see you.
Test 5: She shows up for the date. If she's over 10 minutes late or detained, she texts or calls you to let you know (she better have a good reason to be detained). If she fails this test, NEXT immediately. If she's over 10 minutes late and doesn't inform you, keep on the lookout for similar behaviour on the very next date. NEXT immediately if it occurs again. Don't be taken for granted.
Test 6: She shows consistent positive body language on the date, laughs at your jokes (even the lame ones), listens to you, answers your questions enthousastically, flaps her gums more than you do. If she fails thist test, NEXT immediately. Most likely she's bored and using you for her entertainment, or a complete dud stuck in her head. Trust me, you can't fix people too much in their head and they'll only claim "that's how I am" when you ask them. Let her find someone else to do the talking for her then, that's not what you want.
Test 7: She still talks to you after the first date. She accepts a second date offer. And a third. A fourth. And so forth. If she fails this test by flaking on you or declining a second, third or consecutive date offer without a return offer (because she's busy on the day you suggest for example), then NEXT immediately. She's not really interested and has had her little attention fix from you by now.
Test 8: She shows consistent respectful behaviour towards you on the dates. If she fails thist test, the first time you MAY chalk it up to something going on with her that the next time might be gone. She may even apologize for it. However, realize that behaviour now is indicative of worse to come, as people are on their best during dates. If she can't at least do that, beware. So, NEXT immediately is what I advise, but your mileage may vary.
Sample all women you lay your eyes on in this systematic way. It'll eliminate your feelings of desire that might drag you down into AFCness. In time, it'll become natural to you (it should, anyway. don't allow yourself to become a robot).
Is there a test 9? Not really. Test 8 is kind of repetitive, all the way down into the casual-sexual or serious relationship. Respect for you and accomodating behaviour is what you're looking for. Of course, don't forget to return the courtesy without being needy and possesive. Fun is the keyword.
Of course this test list is indicative and not authoritive. Your mileage and preferences may somewhat vary. Feel free to modify it to suit your style.
Again, good luck and remember that you create it.
