"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dmich03

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I met a girl at the club, it was very hard for me to get her attention, but before I leave her that night, she gave me her FB to add her. I added her, we've been talking for like a month and a half, meet up one time for coffee, then I missed her one time I was supposed to meet up ( long story ). Now ever since, she changed on me, don't want to meet up, so I kinda got nervous, and let everything out...after writing her several times, she delete me and blocked me...Last thing I told her was that I wouldn't talk to her for the month of April, because I knew she was in her finals, amongst other things, wrote her to her email...The next day, she unblocked me, but to write me the nastiest message. So I reply saying that she was mean she reply saying that she is like that, told her that she wasnt the day I met her..then told her I would stick to what I said before and talk to her next month, she reply to stop talking to her altogether..then told her that I was stopping as we speak, and that closed the conversation....So am I still in the game, or did I lose? I gotta say that at first I really like this girl, shes perfect to me, and I still like her, she pretty, she smart, and Im sure there is more to this girl, we had coffee together, and she wasnt behaving at all like a mean girl. if I am guilty of anything, is that I've been writing her a lot, but after that incident she made me understand how she may be a drama girl just like my ex, and that s exactly what made her my ex. She make me feel like I'm dealing with a little baby who just wants everything pronto. If thats the case, then I know what I'm up against, and thats what makes me more eager to make things work. I know that if she throws little fit, it wont piss me off like it used to with my ex, I would just take it cool, and hear what she has on her mind. What should I do May 1?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think it'd be best if you placed focus on another woman at this point. She sounds like a waste of time.
 

SandHawk

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You sound like a drama queen seeking actively for problems like this. This is what you're going to do:

1) You're going to delete this girl off your Facebook and delete her other contact details
2) You're going to read The Book of Pook
3) You're going to read The DJ Bible
4) You're going to start approaching tons of chicks and forget about this one
5) ???
6) Profit!
 

Diaforetikos

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SandHawk said:
You sound like a drama queen seeking actively for problems like this. This is what you're going to do:

1) You're going to delete this girl off your Facebook and delete her other contact details
2) You're going to read The Book of Pook
3) You're going to read The DJ Bible
4) You're going to start approaching tons of chicks and forget about this one
5) ???
6) Profit!
Hahahahahaaaa... oooooh man... profit. That certainly was a knee slapper.
 
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