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Hey,
Well I was at friends party and met a girl that goes to my school. She was really cool, really hot and was hanging around me all night. As the party died down there were only a few people left. All of my friends eventually left and it was just me and her. At this point we were both alittle drunk,but not to bad. I was more sober than her. She was all over me (she seemed to use being drunk as an exuse to get close to me) and we were sitting on the couch and it seemed like she wanted to kiss me. I didn't think it would be right to kiss her if she was drunk, so eventually she asked me to take her home. Before she got out of the car she gave me a huge hug and smile. I called her the next morning and I ended up going to her house on the next night. I just got my halloween costume and she said she couldn't wait to see it and told me to come over. I did and she came to my car. I was expecting her to just look at my costume, but we ended having great conversation for an hour. I had to leave, once again we hugged and I left. I decided it was time to ask her out on a date, something casual. We ended up getting a movie, she suggested a scary movie so we got the movie SAW. We came back to my place and started watching the movie. At first she seemed alittle shy and eventually I had my arm around her. But as the movie progressed she eventually got confortable and laid on me. We cuddled and had great conversation and a great time. After, her mom called and told her to come home now. She said that it was ok if she was alittle late. We watched TV and got closer. She was flirting and playing with her hair ALOT. My problem is that I didn't kiss her yet, I just felt that it might be too much. So I drove her home and I gave her a kiss on the cheek and a big hug. She said she had a great time and would see me at the the costume party the next night. She also said she wanted to go out with me again. So at the party things seemed alittle bit awkward, but not too bad. We talked but she seemed to be hanging out with her girlfriends alot. I played it cool and talked to a bunch of people. I eventually left and someone told me that her and her friends were going to a party later on, but it was like a girls night out thing. At 2:30 in the morning she called me, I was passed out, but for some reason I left my phone on and heard it. I Your could tell she had alittle bit to drink and pretty much was just asking me why I didn't pick up the phone and that her friend wanted her to call me, but then she started laughing and joking around with me. It is kinda hard to explain, but she seemed like she was thinking of me. She hinted during our first date that she wanted to do something today (Sunday) at night. I am just wondering if I should call her and if I do should I go for the kiss on lips if it feels right. Thanks
 

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Morphiex

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donbt see why not , if what your wrote is right then it seems shes really likes you , ask her out again and kiss her when you two are coudling and stuff....

gl to ya mate....;)
 

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Alright so last night, she kept talking to me texting and stuff and said she needed to make a halloween costume. At this point it was really late and all the halloween stores were closed. I offered some suggestions and she thanked me but she seemed like she wanted something else. I was getting the feeling that she wanted me to come over and she said she would like it if I could "help" her figure out a costume. I knew that she really didn't care about the costume but wanted me to come over. I went over and we chilled on the couch and talked and cuddled. Her mom was in the next room so it was alittle hard getting close. In the end we didn't come up with a costume but got in great conversation and there was some good kino. I gave her a hug (would of kissed her but her mom was right there and didn't want to make her uncomfortable) and left, she gave a big smile and hugged back. Later she thanked me for coming, but apologized if it was boring. I of course said a had a great time and would talk to her tomorrow. I am thinking of asking her out again friday but am unsure what to ask her to do? We rented the SAW on our first date, her suggestion was a scary movie. After seeing it though I don't think she wants to the SAW 2, cause of all the gore. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I just want to keep it fun and then maybe getting little private later on. Thank my fellow DJs.
 

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u can go and play some pool , get some kino in "help her make some shots" then after u played a little go for a walk and talk and **** , go to the beach or the park just chill and talk.... and then maby go for the kiss there ....

or u can do bowling and then go for a walk ect...

or if u got a car go for a fast food dinenr or chinese or sumthing she likes , then drive the car to a place with a good view and sit on the hood of the car and eat and talk while listening to some tunes....

just have fun mate =P

tell me how it goes ..... ;)
 

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good job

dude i just wanted to congrat you...oolol i like reading all these stories about all these little crushs all over the world.. its kind of cool... sounds like your doing an awesome job.. keep up the good work..lol

SELOCO
 

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Thanks man, if it wasn't for this website I don't know if I would have done so well. I will keep you guys posted. Thanks again
 

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Alright so I haven't asked her out to do something yet. I haven't talked to her in two days (trying not to seem to dependent and annoying). Well, the problem is that when were in school she is so shy to me, but when were by ourselves she is fine. So anyways, I was on her myspace and her one friend wrote, P.S. Tell (my name) that I said hi! JK LOL HAHAHA
So I wasn't really sure what to think of this, at first I thought wow are they laughing at me but then I thought maybe they were talking about me in a good way or something. So a couple hours later I am on myspace and look for the comment but she Deleted it! So I am confused. I don't no why she wouldn't want me to see that, or maybe she was embarrassed. I don't know. Right now I am kinda unsure, we had a great first date and she said she had a great time and wanted to go out again, so I guess I am going to ask her out. We have a big break now from school so it should be good. I will keep you posted.
 

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Ok so I asked her out for last night, but she said she was going out with a group of her friends for a girls night out. She said she would call me if she didn't get back to late. Well, she didn't call, so I assumed that she was just having a good time with her friends, they were shopping, going out to eat, etc. So I didn't wait around I went to the mall with some of my friends and we saw a movie. The only thing is, she is busy today (Sat) and tomorrow because she is filming a movie and is the leading lady. So do you guys think I should call her at all Saturday or Sunday or should I just wait til Monday and ask her out then (we don't have school Monday or Tuesday). Thanks guys
 

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dont call her on saturday or sunday , u will begin to sound a little to clingy.... but wait till tuesday and ask her out on a date for friday or saturday next week.... u dont wanna scare the girl away........
 

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Little update here, she called me late last night and pretty much hinted that she wanted to hang so we might chill today. I will let you guys no what happens. Man it really paid off to not call her, you could tell she was wondering why I didn't call. Thank you sosuave best site.
 

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hey good job man. hope you have a good time with her ...let me know how it goes =)

good luck to ya mate :up:
 

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Alright so last night, I asked her if she wanted to go out. She said she wished she could but she had to go to her dad's house (parents are divorced). So I figured I would just tell her we could do something another time, but right before I said that she told me if I wanted I could come over to her dad's house. It is a pretty far ride out there but I decided this would be a good time to show her that I would do that kind of thing. I said yes, got some directions, and man was she excited. So after I finally get there, I turn into these estates. This home was HUGE, I mean this house could of been on cribs, it had a movie theatre, weight room, 12 bedrooms, etc. Needless to say I was awe struck when I saw it. It was just built so the indoor pool wasn't finished yet, darn. Anyways, I met like her whole family since her step sister was having a birthday party. They all seemed very nice, but we really couldn't get any alone time. We first ended up just watching TV for a little, and then she showed me her room :) Of course her dad was watching us from the door though :( So pretty much later on her dad fell asleep and we watched a movie with a bunch of her step sisters friends. We held hands and cuddled, but couldn't really do anything seeing as there were a bunch of people in the room. So finally I sadly had to leave, she walked me outside, it was really cold, so I held her close and had my arm around her. We talked and she told me to call her sunday. I wanted to kiss her but it was literally like below freezing out and she was watching their dog. We gave each other a long lasting hug, and I left. I made sure that she knows that I want to be more than friends, as she has done the same. Hopefully sunday we can get some alone time and I can get that kiss! I didn't want to attempt it the freezing cold and have it be all uncomfortable. So hopefully sunday will be the day :)
 

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good luck mate

and deffenatly go for the kiss on sunday.....

cheers :up:

:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
 

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Go for the kiss. Its a type of girls who hang with people. Try to have sex asap, because You might not be love of her life. I knew chcks like that. Also good solution is to spend time with Your friend on party doing the same as she did to You. Her interest will raise up then.
 

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Alright, well Sunday I ended up not being able to do anything. I had to be out of state. But anyways, I figured this problem would go away but it didn't so I need some help. Whenever we are out of school she is awesome, we have great conversation and she is great. But during school and even out of school stuff, like when there is alot of people around she gets super shy. Her brother had his conformation with my little sister and while we were in church we talked for alittle, but after, when everyone was taking pictures, she would glance back at me a ton. Like she did this ALOT. But when we are school she does the same thing, and acts really shy. But once I go up to her and initiate conversation everything is fine. I don't know its kind of frustrating. I think its because our relationship isn't really defined yet. O well...thanks for the help guys.
 

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well its like you said it isent really defined and even public yet and people get shy around people they like when there are other people around them.... its normal dobnt worry to much about it.....
But u gtta go for another date and get the kiss before she starts o think that ur not interested or sumthing.....
tell me how it goes ......

peace =)
 

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I say, make the relationship more serious and public. If the relationship is really uncomfortable when there are other people around, chances are it might not work out. She's probably hesitant around you when there are other people around because she hasn't gotten a clear signal that you want to have a relationship. Collect yourself and make a move! You've had many opportunities to, but you keep making excuses and rationalizing your fear. I know from experience that phase-shifts like these are the most difficult parts of a budding relationship. But such phase-shifts are also the most important and could easily determine the outcome of your relationship.

Try this: Use the three-second rule and break the public-ice. When you see her at school with a group of friends, walk straight towards her and make eye contact. Walk into the group, usually a circle or similar shape, and stand roughly across from her, so you're facing her as you talk to the group. Say hi to the general group then address your girl. Tell her to close her eyes because you have a suprise for her. If she's interested and she trusts you, which, from what you say, she definetely does, she will play along. When she closes her eyes, move in for the kiss. Don't stop, don't think, just do it. Smile, take her hand, and get her out of there to have some quality time alone together.

Who cares what the world thinks? What YOU think about yourself matters the most. Have faith in yourself and do it. Don't hesitate, don't be afraid, don't think. JUST DO IT.

-Damian
 

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Originally posted by Damian
I say, make the relationship more serious and public. If the relationship is really uncomfortable when there are other people around, chances are it might not work out. She's probably hesitant around you when there are other people around because she hasn't gotten a clear signal that you want to have a relationship. Collect yourself and make a move! You've had many opportunities to, but you keep making excuses and rationalizing your fear. I know from experience that phase-shifts like these are the most difficult parts of a budding relationship. But such phase-shifts are also the most important and could easily determine the outcome of your relationship.

Try this: Use the three-second rule and break the public-ice. When you see her at school with a group of friends, walk straight towards her and make eye contact. Walk into the group, usually a circle or similar shape, and stand roughly across from her, so you're facing her as you talk to the group. Say hi to the general group then address your girl. Tell her to close her eyes because you have a suprise for her. If she's interested and she trusts you, which, from what you say, she definetely does, she will play along. When she closes her eyes, move in for the kiss. Don't stop, don't think, just do it. Smile, take her hand, and get her out of there to have some quality time alone together.

Who cares what the world thinks? What YOU think about yourself matters the most. Have faith in yourself and do it. Don't hesitate, don't be afraid, don't think. JUST DO IT.

-Damian
dont do that for the first kiss man...
but its true when he says its cuz u two havent definied your rlt as i said in my eralier post, just ask her to hang out at your place and watch a movie then cuddle and **** and go for the kiss easy cheap and simple.....

gl man and tell me how it goes =)
 
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