Joshski
Don Juan
Fellow DJs,
(Bold parts are really the most important ones...tried to flirt with her)
Here's a little about myself. I'm a 22-year old male in his senior year of college. I'm six feet tall, about 155 pounds, bi-racial (half black, half white), I work for a sports media conglomerate that you've most definitely heard of and I have a pretty deep voice. (I do public address for the school's D1 sports teams).
For my entire life I've been your average AFC/nice guy and it's gotten me 1 girl in my 22 years on planet Earth.
I come to you today for help with a new girl. It's early enough that I don't think I've f*cked it up yet, but I've been making strides with my own game and want to progress further.
About her: She's a freshman. I debated for a while whether I should pursue or not because of the age difference. I said screw it, I'm gonna go for it. She's about 5'7" or so, blonde hair. We share the same major and are part of the same student media organization. Aside from her looks, she's very passionate about her work, which I find very attractive. She's involved, dedicated and has a good work ethic. We don't have any classes together due to the age difference (I'm three or four years older depending on the time of year.)
The situation starts with this: My school has two campuses. I'll call them Campus A and Campus B. I live on B. I had to drive from B to A to pick up one of my friends to bring to Campus B. Campus B has the big sports venue. I work for the school's sports publicity department.
Since I had to get my friend from Campus A, I texted a couple of my boys asking they also needed rides. They said they didn't, but Girl C (my target) did. They gave her my number and she texted me in the morning to arrange the pickup. She was covering the game we were going to for the student media organization.
It was by random luck that we sat next to each other--there's a seating chart which I have no control over and usually media is separated from publicity. This game it wasn't.
I don't know what got into me, but I was super flirty/touchy with her. Like putting my hand around her shoulder when talking to her, putting my hand on her back and getting close to her since it was loud, etc. She'd complain that her hands were cold so I'd put my hands on hers. For me, this was super flirty. She wasn't reciprocating, but she wasn't pulling away either. This was in public, so it might not have been the most comfortable thing for her.
The game ends. There was another game after it. I was working that one too, she wasn't. So she went to the stands with some friends, all of whom I know.
When I had a moment during the second game, I went down to the public seating to say hi to the group. She was gone, but Guy J looks at me and goes "Girl C is a really big fan of you."
Not sure what that meant, but probably not a bad thing. Didn't see her for the rest of the day.
Fast forward a couple days. I send a snapchat to Guy J saying I'm on Campus A because that's where he lives. He replies with a picture of Girl C saying to come visit them in one of the classrooms.
A day or two later, Guy J and I arrive at a classroom at the same time to do some work. We sit down and he takes a picture of me. I asked why. His response: "Don't worry, I'm only sending it to Girl C."
Guy J and Girl C are quite close, so I think he knows something. Perhaps I should've made a move sooner.
Didn't see her for a few days after all this, but now when I do see her, I make sure to always get some kind of kino in. She now puts her arm around me when I put mine around her. Hugs are pretty comfortable and not awkward. I always try to go for the lower back with my hand placement. We've only texted once, but I was flirty then too:
Me: So you weren't at the game today because..?
Her: I have tonsilitis and bronchitis had to go to the ER on Saturday cause my fever was so high and wouldn't come down lol
Me: Yikes, that’s terrible. Do you have to get your tonsils removed?
Her: yeah I am gonna get them out over the summer so I don't miss school
Me: I’ve actually been watching a lot of House recently so I could prolly do the surgery if you want, plus it’d give you an excuse to see me
Her: Hahaha oh god... As tempting as that sounds... I might have to opt for a professional on this one
She responds pretty quickly to all my messages even though I was taking 10-30 minutes to reply to her.
A couple of my bros said they wanted me to compliment her by saying "you look good" or something to that effect. I managed to do it, which was a huge surprise to me. I had to interview people for one of my classes, so she was one of my subjects. After it was over and we were walking out of the room, I said "you look cute, what were you at today?" In hindsight, not the best compliment because she got it a lot that day. Gotta work on that.
The day before spring break started we had a really good convo. We went from the room we were doing work in to the cafeteria. There were some other folks with us. I stood in line with her and she'd have her feet or her entire body facing me. When we sat down, she and I talked one-on-one for a bit. Eye contact was strong. I need to hold it better though. She made a fist and rested her chin on it as I talked to her. Not sure if that's anything.
RIGHT NOW: We last talked on Friday morning. She's in Florida for spring break. I stay at school because I have work. I should probably text her at least once before classes start up again next Monday.
So I feel like I'm not totally doomed. Just have to be more confident...realize I'm a catch...that she has no power over me. Thoughts on how I should proceed?
(Bold parts are really the most important ones...tried to flirt with her)
Here's a little about myself. I'm a 22-year old male in his senior year of college. I'm six feet tall, about 155 pounds, bi-racial (half black, half white), I work for a sports media conglomerate that you've most definitely heard of and I have a pretty deep voice. (I do public address for the school's D1 sports teams).
For my entire life I've been your average AFC/nice guy and it's gotten me 1 girl in my 22 years on planet Earth.
I come to you today for help with a new girl. It's early enough that I don't think I've f*cked it up yet, but I've been making strides with my own game and want to progress further.
About her: She's a freshman. I debated for a while whether I should pursue or not because of the age difference. I said screw it, I'm gonna go for it. She's about 5'7" or so, blonde hair. We share the same major and are part of the same student media organization. Aside from her looks, she's very passionate about her work, which I find very attractive. She's involved, dedicated and has a good work ethic. We don't have any classes together due to the age difference (I'm three or four years older depending on the time of year.)
The situation starts with this: My school has two campuses. I'll call them Campus A and Campus B. I live on B. I had to drive from B to A to pick up one of my friends to bring to Campus B. Campus B has the big sports venue. I work for the school's sports publicity department.
Since I had to get my friend from Campus A, I texted a couple of my boys asking they also needed rides. They said they didn't, but Girl C (my target) did. They gave her my number and she texted me in the morning to arrange the pickup. She was covering the game we were going to for the student media organization.
It was by random luck that we sat next to each other--there's a seating chart which I have no control over and usually media is separated from publicity. This game it wasn't.
I don't know what got into me, but I was super flirty/touchy with her. Like putting my hand around her shoulder when talking to her, putting my hand on her back and getting close to her since it was loud, etc. She'd complain that her hands were cold so I'd put my hands on hers. For me, this was super flirty. She wasn't reciprocating, but she wasn't pulling away either. This was in public, so it might not have been the most comfortable thing for her.
The game ends. There was another game after it. I was working that one too, she wasn't. So she went to the stands with some friends, all of whom I know.
When I had a moment during the second game, I went down to the public seating to say hi to the group. She was gone, but Guy J looks at me and goes "Girl C is a really big fan of you."
Not sure what that meant, but probably not a bad thing. Didn't see her for the rest of the day.
Fast forward a couple days. I send a snapchat to Guy J saying I'm on Campus A because that's where he lives. He replies with a picture of Girl C saying to come visit them in one of the classrooms.
A day or two later, Guy J and I arrive at a classroom at the same time to do some work. We sit down and he takes a picture of me. I asked why. His response: "Don't worry, I'm only sending it to Girl C."
Guy J and Girl C are quite close, so I think he knows something. Perhaps I should've made a move sooner.
Didn't see her for a few days after all this, but now when I do see her, I make sure to always get some kind of kino in. She now puts her arm around me when I put mine around her. Hugs are pretty comfortable and not awkward. I always try to go for the lower back with my hand placement. We've only texted once, but I was flirty then too:
Me: So you weren't at the game today because..?
Her: I have tonsilitis and bronchitis had to go to the ER on Saturday cause my fever was so high and wouldn't come down lol
Me: Yikes, that’s terrible. Do you have to get your tonsils removed?
Her: yeah I am gonna get them out over the summer so I don't miss school
Me: I’ve actually been watching a lot of House recently so I could prolly do the surgery if you want, plus it’d give you an excuse to see me
Her: Hahaha oh god... As tempting as that sounds... I might have to opt for a professional on this one
She responds pretty quickly to all my messages even though I was taking 10-30 minutes to reply to her.
A couple of my bros said they wanted me to compliment her by saying "you look good" or something to that effect. I managed to do it, which was a huge surprise to me. I had to interview people for one of my classes, so she was one of my subjects. After it was over and we were walking out of the room, I said "you look cute, what were you at today?" In hindsight, not the best compliment because she got it a lot that day. Gotta work on that.
The day before spring break started we had a really good convo. We went from the room we were doing work in to the cafeteria. There were some other folks with us. I stood in line with her and she'd have her feet or her entire body facing me. When we sat down, she and I talked one-on-one for a bit. Eye contact was strong. I need to hold it better though. She made a fist and rested her chin on it as I talked to her. Not sure if that's anything.
RIGHT NOW: We last talked on Friday morning. She's in Florida for spring break. I stay at school because I have work. I should probably text her at least once before classes start up again next Monday.
So I feel like I'm not totally doomed. Just have to be more confident...realize I'm a catch...that she has no power over me. Thoughts on how I should proceed?
