...orthegirlgetsit!
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I found these forums after a girl recently cut me loose. It has opened my eyes and now I want to change. Here is my back story. Tell me where to go from here.
I was introduced by a mutual acquaintance to a girl at work and we hit it off, and I got her number. Waited a couple days and sent her a text. Chatted a little and ultimately ask her out for drinks. Things went well when we met up, there was lots of initial chemistry. The date ended up going on for four hours, she admitted to ignoring the new dog she got that day to stay out with me, and even gave me access to her Netflix account because she wanted me to watch House of Cards. We hugged and parted ways at the end of the night.
After this she starts texting me daily and so from time to time I initiate the conversation. We agree to a second date and I even pay her a visit at work.
Time for the second date comes around. I've planned a hike, where I'll bring along some food, since hiking is a shared interest of ours and we can incorporate her new dog. Weather forces us to change our plans. She had mentioned wanting to visit a local distillery so we do that instead. I pick her up and show up with a cheap toy for the new dog. We go out, have a couple drinks, some snacks, and talk for awhile. I had mentioned a quick walk with the dog and dinner after thinking the distillery would be a short date. I was wrong and the date drug out all day. She wanted to walk three miles and then dinner happened very late. Afterwards, she invited me back to her hot tub and of course I accept. We talk more, but every time I move in she moves away. The night ends 11 hours after we started and all I get is a very long hug.
We keep texting and now she wants to tell me about her anxiety issues, depression, and how guys have used her in the past and even acknowledges how unattractive all of this is. She also wants to make plans to do things with me well over a month in advance.
I stop by and see her again at work, and make spontaneous plans to go a panaderia after work since she is new to the area and doesn't know where to find authentic Mexican food. We stay an hour. More good conversation.
At some point she had offered to take me to the airport before an upcoming trip since her mother is flying in the same day. I initially refused, but she brought it up again and I agree, but I know that she is moving apartments so I conditionally agree saying I'll help move in exchange. Plus it gives me one last chance to see her before my trip.
I show up late in the move, but do help out some. Her cousins were there and did most of the work. The plan was to drink, have pizza, and play games after. I brought some booze, guacamole, and brownies. While meeting her cousins one of them invites me to dinner with them all two days later. Not knowing what to do I accept. We play games, cousins leave, I make out with her on the couch and finger her to orgasm. She offers to let me stay in her junky apartment and I foolishly say no.
The 4th was the next day. We each do our own thing, but I contact her and we talk some. Then dinner the next day. A little awkward, but I make it through. She was trying to find a vacuum but didn't find one she liked and she tries to borrow from her cousin, but hers is broken, so I volunteer mine. We get the vacuum, go to her place, and she starts drawing attention to her chest. We start to make out, I get her top off, and move to the bedroom. Once on the bed she stops me talking about how guys used her in the past. I stop, we talk, I agree to wait. She ask me if I'm seeing anyone else and foolishly I say no. She ask me to stay the night and we curl up and pass out.
I go home and my freak out begins. I start texting to show I'm interested in her and not just sex. She is very slow to respond. I keep initiating conversations and she keeps responding right before bed. I know things are bad, but I'm becoming needy and insecure. Needless to say I get a text 12 hours before she is supposed to take me to the airport saying she didn't see me as more than a friend and that we shouldn't date, but the ride is still available if I need it.
I don't respond and have been NC since, but eventually I need my vacuum back. What is my move? How do I make myself a better man?
I was introduced by a mutual acquaintance to a girl at work and we hit it off, and I got her number. Waited a couple days and sent her a text. Chatted a little and ultimately ask her out for drinks. Things went well when we met up, there was lots of initial chemistry. The date ended up going on for four hours, she admitted to ignoring the new dog she got that day to stay out with me, and even gave me access to her Netflix account because she wanted me to watch House of Cards. We hugged and parted ways at the end of the night.
After this she starts texting me daily and so from time to time I initiate the conversation. We agree to a second date and I even pay her a visit at work.
Time for the second date comes around. I've planned a hike, where I'll bring along some food, since hiking is a shared interest of ours and we can incorporate her new dog. Weather forces us to change our plans. She had mentioned wanting to visit a local distillery so we do that instead. I pick her up and show up with a cheap toy for the new dog. We go out, have a couple drinks, some snacks, and talk for awhile. I had mentioned a quick walk with the dog and dinner after thinking the distillery would be a short date. I was wrong and the date drug out all day. She wanted to walk three miles and then dinner happened very late. Afterwards, she invited me back to her hot tub and of course I accept. We talk more, but every time I move in she moves away. The night ends 11 hours after we started and all I get is a very long hug.
We keep texting and now she wants to tell me about her anxiety issues, depression, and how guys have used her in the past and even acknowledges how unattractive all of this is. She also wants to make plans to do things with me well over a month in advance.
I stop by and see her again at work, and make spontaneous plans to go a panaderia after work since she is new to the area and doesn't know where to find authentic Mexican food. We stay an hour. More good conversation.
At some point she had offered to take me to the airport before an upcoming trip since her mother is flying in the same day. I initially refused, but she brought it up again and I agree, but I know that she is moving apartments so I conditionally agree saying I'll help move in exchange. Plus it gives me one last chance to see her before my trip.
I show up late in the move, but do help out some. Her cousins were there and did most of the work. The plan was to drink, have pizza, and play games after. I brought some booze, guacamole, and brownies. While meeting her cousins one of them invites me to dinner with them all two days later. Not knowing what to do I accept. We play games, cousins leave, I make out with her on the couch and finger her to orgasm. She offers to let me stay in her junky apartment and I foolishly say no.
The 4th was the next day. We each do our own thing, but I contact her and we talk some. Then dinner the next day. A little awkward, but I make it through. She was trying to find a vacuum but didn't find one she liked and she tries to borrow from her cousin, but hers is broken, so I volunteer mine. We get the vacuum, go to her place, and she starts drawing attention to her chest. We start to make out, I get her top off, and move to the bedroom. Once on the bed she stops me talking about how guys used her in the past. I stop, we talk, I agree to wait. She ask me if I'm seeing anyone else and foolishly I say no. She ask me to stay the night and we curl up and pass out.
I go home and my freak out begins. I start texting to show I'm interested in her and not just sex. She is very slow to respond. I keep initiating conversations and she keeps responding right before bed. I know things are bad, but I'm becoming needy and insecure. Needless to say I get a text 12 hours before she is supposed to take me to the airport saying she didn't see me as more than a friend and that we shouldn't date, but the ride is still available if I need it.
I don't respond and have been NC since, but eventually I need my vacuum back. What is my move? How do I make myself a better man?
The date should be controlled by you and end on your terms, preferably at the high point of the date to leave her wanting more.
