help me me reel this one in guys..

[captain55]

So I met some chick online, unlike 99% of most online sluts the typical game didn't work with this one. When she knew what I was trying to do (get in her pants) she stopped talking to me.

I deleted her number,...sure enough a month later she hit me up again. We started talking on the phone a lot for a week or two, calling me everyday, and she finally meet up with me last sunday. The date went great, I grabbed her ass the first 5 seconds of seeing her. made out with her in literally an hour of knowing her and 10 minutes after the date she sends me a text saying "Im soaked. I can't wait to see you again". we both clicked and were incredibly comfortable with each other.

So Yesterday I tried getting her to come over my house. She agreed on it at first, until at the last minute she started getting cold feet. "Im not so sure I feel comfortable with coming to your house yet".

So I was cool about it and went to see her instead (she lives about an hour away) Took her for a walk on the beach, a movie, and we stayed out until 4 am on the beach and talked. date went well she just called me again...lots of heavy kissing.

only problem is this is the second time I have gone to see her and there was no sexual progress this date. No bj, hasn't even seen my **** yet. . She won't let me finger her either when I try to take it to the next level she says no. . Also...she put me on the spot last night with really deep personal questions. things like "are you falling for me" etc. I tried to play it cool (to the best I could), but I feel like she knows she has me now and I don't like a girl knowing I like her before I have slept with her.

I think she's scared if she sleeps with me that Im going to disappear. . Is there anyway I can get her to know know that Im not going to deal with this no sex bull**** ...without coming across as an *******?

go ghost for a couple days perhaps?

 

[sylvester the cat]

yes. spin plates.

 

[Desdinova]

So Yesterday I tried getting her to come over my house. She agreed on it at first, until at the last minute she started getting cold feet. "Im not so sure I feel comfortable with coming to your house yet".

It's easier to get a woman to come to your place AFTER you take her out on a date. New women are more comfortable in a public setting than in a stranger's house (yes, you're still a stranger to her). You need to bring her up to a certain level of comfort by being in her presence before moving her into your personal space.

Also...she put me on the spot last night with really deep personal questions. things like "are you falling for me"

You're coming off as desperate. When you push hard for things like sex, you give off that vibe and women will push away. You need to come in "under the radar" when you show her you're attracted. Use your actions instead of your words, but never be blatantly obvious with your intentions. For instance, when you invite her back to your place, you don't tell her you're going to fvck her brains out. Instead, you tell her about something cool you own, and suggest going back to your place and showing it to her. Women like the anticipation that something *might* happen, but there's also the possibility you might want to just show her the item and then drive her home.

 

[zinc4]

yep...getting her baxck to your place is always the trickiest part.....can never be obvious about your intentions even though that's almost impossible at times...like above poster said..make excuse show something cool or say i have a great movie.....although the movie line is pretty obvious...it works if their interest level is high...i like to always say wow, i have had such a good time chatting with you, feels like we have known eachother before somehow would let's take a nice walk talk a lot more...if they refuse laugh and say oh, you think i want sex..she will say...every usually guys does....say hahaha i can't even get turned on enough the first time i meet a girl to have sex with her...it takes me a while of knowing someone to get aroused enough...this one fairs well for me usually....

in your situation just calling her over....you need to make up a good excuse next time if she's acting cold about it....don't push too hard, though....sounds like she might actually not jump ijnto bed quickly with every interesting guy she meets


And if a girl ever says oh, you are starting to fall for me or really like you just say ha, i don't even know if i have that ability any more....then she will question the hell out of you and be intrigued about what you mean...tell her it takes a long time of you knowing someone to start to have real feelings....then if she proceeds...say my dear...don't confuse the occassional being horny with feelings...i have only loved one woman my entire life..and that took over a year to feel that way...this always drives them crazy...

 

[captain55]

well guys the good news is she texted me asking when she's going to see me again. she told me she is free sunday and monday. She called me and we were talking and I implied going to the beach with her on sunday and her coming back to my place for the night and driving her back the next day. sleeping over my house on sunday night (no I didn't say this directly) but anyways...shes not comfortable with sleeping at my house yet.

She lives with her parents, so I can't **** her at her place. I like her don't get me wrong, which is why I wanted to take her somewhere nice sunday. But I don't want to take her somewhere nice if she's not going to return the favor. Nothing more beta than wining and dining a ***** who you haven't even ****ed.

I mean if she likes me enough, will she **** me in fear of losing me perhaps? It's the third date, she's afraid I'm gonna disappear if i get it but she's gotta take that chance at some point. she blows up my phone 24/7 and is starting to use words like "i care about you". .

should I cancel on her sunday? help me out here

 

[Partizan]

And if a girl ever says oh, you are starting to fall for me or really like you just say ha, i don't even know if i have that ability any more....then she will question the hell out of you and be intrigued about what you mean...tell her it takes a long time of you knowing someone to start to have real feelings....then if she proceeds...say my dear...don't confuse the occassional being horny with feelings...i have only loved one woman my entire life..and that took over a year to feel that way...this always drives them crazy...

Agree. Had a chick in my bed this morning (after spending the night) telling me she wished my "walls would come down" and that I would let her in. This is after only a month of dating. LOL.

I told her that it would take time, but that eventually even the Berlin wall fell. She acted frustrated but I know she loves the challenge and the mix of feelings it gives her knowing she doesn't have all of me yet.

 

[compleks]

Settle down mate. It seems fairly obvious you aren't getting laid by anyone else at this stage?

You have only seen this chick twice. Not all chicks are going to fvck you on the first few dates. You should have a few leads going anyway, that way you wont be so reliant on having to sleep with this one so desperately.