Help me keep my head

[Handsfull]

This always happens. I lose interest in all other 'plates' when I really like a girl.

Case in point: My top girl. Any other plate I was spinning, is just boring. I have made it a point to hand out with them to keep away from my top girl and I from completely flaming out.

There is a very attractive girl that lives about 45 min away from me that wants me to come up and have a drink with her. I'm sure I could hit it, but am not even really interested. I'm also a selective moralist. If I'm just killing time with a girl, I could take it or leave it. If an opportunity presents itself, I'll be all over it. But now, when a particular girl earns my respect, proves to not be an infantile attention whoar, I naturally dont want to fvck around and 'play' her. She doesnt deserve that, right?

Herein lies the catch 22. If I let those plates get cold I can develop oneitis. If I continue to spin other plates, I honestly feel guilty, because she would be hurt if she found out.

She is not seeing anyone else. I'm almost positive of this. I think she assumes I am not, but I am - naturally.

Someone kick me in the ass :kick: . What am I missing here? And dont give me any woman hating BS. There are quality women out there. I've fvcked them. I know. Haha.

 

[SoSuave666]

I tried to bring this up a while back, but didn't get too many replies on it. Eventually, your plates get prioritized. It's inevitable. A couple things we don't know though is how long you have been seeing your plates. Do all your plates like you the same way you like them (i.e some are just FBs)?

 

[Handsfull]

The plates are generally FWB's or friends who would like to be more. My plates do like me more than I like them. Except my top plate, which I believe to be equal. Im pretty retarded for this girl, to the point where I used to have to leave my phone at home so as not to blow her up. I've got it under control now though, and she cannot figure me out. I like her though. I don't want to game her.

I have been seeing the other girls for between 4-6 months-casually. Three to four plates, tops. I cannot manage anyomore. It's just too much! Haha. A few ONS, which I really want to eliminate. Started seeing the top girl a month ago, and she really blew my doors off. I have had to check myself numerous times. I put her on a pedastal before I knew it, but took it way when I realized I did. Sh'es cool as **** though, brings no baggage, yet... some ssh1t tests, yes. But that's par for the course.

Integrity. It can be elusive when running game. I want to maintain mine.

 

[SoSuave666]

I think one month is way too soon to have this girl on the pedestal you already do. I also guarantee she has baggage, she is a chick. And if she doesn't have any, she'll make some up.

With that said, I get your point. I would say just relax and continue to do what you're doing. Right now the thought of losing your top girl because of other girls is killing your game. The entire point of spinning plates is to keep from feeling this way. Ideally, plates should all be at the same level. That rarely happens, so it's more theoretical than ideal I guess. Stay calm, and don't let the topic of other people come up when around top plate. People who we are really in to have a way of sucking out our attraction to other women. A chemistry vacuum if you will. Hell, when I was dating my oneitis I would have boffed at an opportunity to hook up with Kate Upton simply because my girl was all up in my head. You gotta prioritize things in your life. You can NOT make this chick number one in your life. You got other chicks pining to be with you. Play it out until it becomes an issue and you are FORCED to decide. Then try and push it a little farther. You can't be scared to lose this one girl man. There are literally thousands more out there that are better.