feeltheflow
New Member
Hello Don Juans!
I'm new to this forum and this will be my first post. I'm under a spell as some of you may have been, and I need advice to prevent falling back into BDP-relation. I will try to keep this short and readable.
I broke up with this girl some days ago, when I realized there will not be any improvement from her behaviour. We have been together over a year, and the relationship has been filled with drama. From the beginning while we were serious into dating, she met some guys without telling me even though we talked about telling each other if we were meeting someone.
From the beginning I discovered she was a bit evil compare to other girls and she was not always truth worthy. I don't want to brag, but I've met some girls in my life. The problem was I could't lay a finger on her behaviour and I thought that was the result for being very attractive and a history of too much attention from guys. But she said strange things I never heard before, while we was dating, she said "I could sell sex for money... why not?" and she started to read about selling sex, sometime she could say that she wanted a threesome with two guys. I'll never know if she was serious about the first part.
In the beginning she was constantly sex chatting with guys she met. She never told me about it, her friend told me she was not fair with me.
Some months ago I found out on my own that she has BDP, and from the beginning it was very hard for her to admit shes got a diagnose. For me it was like seeing every piece in a puzzle falling together.
After my discover about her diagnose the situation changed to be more intensive. Then drama went on every second day and it could be everything - it was impossible to avoid, she told me, that the drama was about the demand of attention she didn't felt I gave her. After all I like her, but that is when she is nice, then she is mostly fantastic.
It feels like I've read everything about BDP and I can recognize her completely as a classic BDP-girl. She is very very good looking, fair scale 8+ of 10 for most/all of men and she is crazy in sex. Girls often say to her they envy her look. On top of that she can't handle alcohol.
I need some advice to keep my head cold. She has started to send me messages about forgiveness, we shall try again, and she says she has contacted a psychologist who will help her (possible?). She has recently (today) asked me if we could have sex, and guys you know it's hard to resist a very attractive girl and even harder if she loves sex (i.e. sex life is fantastic).
Worth to add that complicates the situation a bit, is that she's living on second floor in same apartment house as me, we share staircase.
What to do and how did you guys keep your head cold while ending up with a BDP-girl you like?
Should I've sex with her or totally leave relationship?
Is there something more I should expect happen (evil-games)?
Those guys with earlier experience - feel free to send me a private message and give me some advice, appreciate it.
I'm new to this forum and this will be my first post. I'm under a spell as some of you may have been, and I need advice to prevent falling back into BDP-relation. I will try to keep this short and readable.
I broke up with this girl some days ago, when I realized there will not be any improvement from her behaviour. We have been together over a year, and the relationship has been filled with drama. From the beginning while we were serious into dating, she met some guys without telling me even though we talked about telling each other if we were meeting someone.
From the beginning I discovered she was a bit evil compare to other girls and she was not always truth worthy. I don't want to brag, but I've met some girls in my life. The problem was I could't lay a finger on her behaviour and I thought that was the result for being very attractive and a history of too much attention from guys. But she said strange things I never heard before, while we was dating, she said "I could sell sex for money... why not?" and she started to read about selling sex, sometime she could say that she wanted a threesome with two guys. I'll never know if she was serious about the first part.
In the beginning she was constantly sex chatting with guys she met. She never told me about it, her friend told me she was not fair with me.
Some months ago I found out on my own that she has BDP, and from the beginning it was very hard for her to admit shes got a diagnose. For me it was like seeing every piece in a puzzle falling together.
After my discover about her diagnose the situation changed to be more intensive. Then drama went on every second day and it could be everything - it was impossible to avoid, she told me, that the drama was about the demand of attention she didn't felt I gave her. After all I like her, but that is when she is nice, then she is mostly fantastic.
It feels like I've read everything about BDP and I can recognize her completely as a classic BDP-girl. She is very very good looking, fair scale 8+ of 10 for most/all of men and she is crazy in sex. Girls often say to her they envy her look. On top of that she can't handle alcohol.
I need some advice to keep my head cold. She has started to send me messages about forgiveness, we shall try again, and she says she has contacted a psychologist who will help her (possible?). She has recently (today) asked me if we could have sex, and guys you know it's hard to resist a very attractive girl and even harder if she loves sex (i.e. sex life is fantastic).
Worth to add that complicates the situation a bit, is that she's living on second floor in same apartment house as me, we share staircase.
What to do and how did you guys keep your head cold while ending up with a BDP-girl you like?
Should I've sex with her or totally leave relationship?
Is there something more I should expect happen (evil-games)?
Those guys with earlier experience - feel free to send me a private message and give me some advice, appreciate it.
