"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Help me end this once and for all

Roober

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Sounds like op needs to end it and go no contact. I used to be firm on the "in-person" method, but I would probably say now that it can be done either way. Each situation will dictate how it is done.

If I decided my current lady wasn't a good fit, I would probably tell her in person because she old school and has been really good to me. If she came out and told me she messed with some other dude, she would get the "good luck with that, don't ever contact me again" text after I got all my stuff.

Every situation is different.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Desdinova

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You end it properly
There's a "proper" way to break up? That's like saying there's a "proper" way to have sex.

There is no law defining what a proper way is to end things with a chick. I've been dumped through text, and I'm glad the chicks chose that method. End it quick so I can move on. I've also dumped chicks through text. I'm never going to date them again, so why would I care what they think of me afterwards?

If you guys wanna waste your precious time ending relationships the "delicate" way, that's up to you. I see it as a waste of time.
 

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There's a "proper" way to break up? That's like saying there's a "proper" way to have sex.

There is no law defining what a proper way is to end things with a chick. I've been dumped through text, and I'm glad the chicks chose that method. End it quick so I can move on. I've also dumped chicks through text. I'm never going to date them again, so why would I care what they think of me afterwards?

If you guys wanna waste your precious time ending relationships the "delicate" way, that's up to you. I see it as a waste of time.
Proper was merely a turn of a phrase.

It is a choice of course; however, I do question how much failing communicate has contributed to the difficulties of dating in the current age.

There’s something disheartening that ghosting has becoming such an accepted practice.
 

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Do it the easiest and quickest way for yourself. I like text so I don't have to deal with the crying and then anger after she realizes it's final.


Don't have to worry about either over text.
 

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As mentioned before.. If a girl was quality but it didn't workout, then the in person breakup is the right thing to do..

If a chick is disrespecting you, then she has already checked out.. You want an in person break up, with a chick who as already checked out, and gives zero ****kks about you in the first place..

Good luck with that
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I’m almost embarrassed to say but I feel I need to grow and learn as well. She’s constantly pushing boundaries. Last night for example she told me she was staying at a “friends” house, a guy who she had never mentioned before. I told her have fun. I knew the fact she even considered staying over there, it was the last straw for me.
Yeah dude your "have fun" was good enough kiss off to her. She is admitting she is going to spend the night at another guys. That is her telling you she does not take you or the relationship seriously.

Delete all points of contact.
Do not reply to any attempt by her.
Go date new women.
 

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If you were breaking up with a great gal who was sweet & respectful & y'all just had different goals after a year and a half? Like if she wants marriage and/or kids & you don't? That's someone you respect with a face to face conversation.

This girl who is openly disrespectful, spending the night with (screwing) other men under your nose & nonchalant about it? Like Sunday afternoon: No Class.

Dump unceremoniously via text, block on all platforms, go strict no contact and date other women.

I don't care if the sex is off the hook...she's toxic & wasting your time.
 
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